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writes: I love two men and don't know who to choose! A little background: I am married and have been with my husband for eight years. The relationship for the most part is great, we don't have huge fights, he doesn't hit me or cheat on me, we enjoy the same things and make each other laugh, but there have been issues with drugs (which has lead to trust and and debt problems). For most of the relationship I have been trying to help him, it has been one addiction to another. A couple of years ago he went to rehab, as soon as he got out he went right back to using. When I found out I gave him a choice, me or the drugs, he chose me and as far as I know has been clean (from that drug, now he just drinks everyday) for the past 1 1/2 years. He has been acting very strange for the past 6 months and treating me like he doesn't trust me. He constantly thinks I'm having an affair, and I'm not. When I was in school I fell in love with my highschool sweetheart. We were together for 2 years and got engaged. Things didn't work because we were too young. Soon after we broke up he got a girl pregnant (who he married right away thinking that was the right thing to do) they were together for 11 years and had 3 kids together. Their relationship was never good and in the end he ended up with sole custody of the kids. It had been 6 or more years since I had seen him when we ran into each other 2 months ago. The moment I saw him it took my breath away. I found it hard to look him in the eyes, and the second the we hugged I had a jolt of electricity flow through me that I haven't felt since him. I'm not saying that I never loved my husband, but it has never felt the way it did with my ex. I don't know what to do! I feel that it would work either way and that they would both love me unconditionaly, but how do I choose?
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reader, CRose +, writes (18 May 2006):
CRose is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI have only been talking to my ex for a little over a month. I admit that I have feelings for him still but have not had an affair. In 8 years this is the only dishonest thing I have done.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 May 2006): God! If you're husband were thinking this about an ex girlfriend how upset and hurt would you be!? If he constantly thinks you are having an affair its probably because you are flirting with the idea so much and so your mind is elsewhere. If I were your husband I dont think I'd trust you either.
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reader, CRose +, writes (18 May 2006):
CRose is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYes, even more so than I do. We share a mutual friend and over the years we have stayed up to date with how the other was doing through her. We talk quite a bit on the phone, he has actually given me great advice despite how he feels for me. He only wants me to be happy, even if this means that we are not together.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 May 2006): Does your high school b.f. feel the same way for you?
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