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writes: im 14 years old and im going round my boyfreinds house in 2 days he wants me 2 do stuff and i dont mind doing it but my freinds think im a slut if i do. plus hes mum dont trust us. we have been going out for a few months we are not going to go al the way. what shall i do? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 January 2006): Honey you are 14 years old the question of whether you have sex or engage in other forms of non-penetrative sexual activity should not even be crossing your mind.YOu say your boyfriends mum doesnt trust you both, well your question shows why you are way too young to be thinking like this, yes have a kiss and a cuddle and hold his hand and go on dates if your parents are okay with that but please dont take it any further than that there is a lot more to having sex than just having sex!!You want to look back on your first time as a good time not with regret. If you are still with this boy when you are older perhaps when you are of legal age then you can consider how far to take things with him.If this boy tries to pressurise you which he probably will just tell him that you dont care if he doesnt want to see you anymore and dont go any further than a kiss.Also it sounds really old fashioned but once you get a reputation it stays with you.A girl I went to school with had a baby when she was 14 just like you and she is now married with 2 children and she is 27 years old and men my age still remember and refer to her as a 'slut' and talk about who she slept with etc.What I am saying is okay its not right that a boy is so great for sleeping with girls and the girl is a slut but that is the way it is,Please just enjoy this stage of your life and worry about the more adult issues when you are an adult and are old enough to understand the consequences
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