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writes:Hi, i am 16 and in need of some help.My boyfriend and i have been talking about having sex together. We are both virgins and i am worried about the pain to come with losing my virginity. I decided that it would help if i was more ready when the time came and decided the best way to do this would be to get a dildo or vibrator and use it to become more used to the idea of actually having sex and so on.The problem is actually getting the toy. I live in the middle of nowhere and even if i did go into the city to get one, the people all know me there which is highly embarrassing and since im only 16, i can't buy them online as i dont want my parents to know.can anyone help me out here?thanks, sweetie
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reader, pure shade 5  +, writes (28 April 2009):
 ok well no toys can prepare u for sex like someone els has said yes u cant buy a sex toy till u are 18 and that is still not your problem u need to be 100% sure that u realy want it trust me i lost my viginity at a young age i was still un sure but she asked me if i wanted to so i went for it but any ways rember u can always wait u have your whole life ahead of u and if u do use protection and to eas the pain of losing your viginity u need to be realy wet down there and make sure he goes easy on u rember if he goes to hard u can be scared for life...
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 December 2008): Your right you should wait until your 18 because there is no such thing that you can buy online or even in shops out there.You know what if your boyfriend loves you he should wait and respect you, i know sex spice up to one's life but if you both respect each other and wait for the right time then you'll have a good experience.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 December 2008): A sex toy can help you and your boyfriend explore your sexuality, so I highly recommend it. Something simple, like a Nea from Lelo that doesn't look like a vibrator (in case your parents find it out).If you can't buy it online, go to the nearest city, usually the people in shops like Babeland are really helpful and discreet :)
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reader, katatonik +, writes (7 December 2008):
 I hate to say it but I don't think a sex toy is really going to help you in this regard. First time sex hurts almost no matter what, even if you don't have your hymen. What WILL help you become more ready when the time comes is plenty of foreplay from your boyfriend leading up to the actual sex, so that you are aroused and naturally lubricated "down there" before he actually penetrates you. Ask him to go slowly and to be respectful of your wishes if you need him to stop.
Please note: if you are "not used" to the idea of having sex, you may not be emotionally ready to HAVE sex. Please, please, please be sure that you are before you try sex or you will probably regret it for some time to come. Good luck =]
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 December 2008): you cant buy a sex toy until you are 18 so you can either get some one else to buy it for you. You might want to consider a hair brush you can use the end (the handle) as a dildo. Just an idea.
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