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anonymous
writes:Ok, so my cousin's wedding is in a month. I mentioned it to my boyfriend and he hesitated..'hmmmm June 19th? ummmm no.' I was like 'ok.' He brought up some lame excuse about his B-day celebration. His B-day is (8) days before the wedding date.I acted like whatever but it was just lingering all day..still is. I'm getting over it. But do guys feel weird about attending a wedding? Does that make a serious statement about our relationship? And maybe he's not ready to take that step, just yet? We've been dating for almost (4 months). Met each other's parents. Had dinner with both families. I met his friends awhile back. I've just met his extended family. Not much..just two families. On the other hand my extended family is A WHOLE LOT OF PEOPLE that he hasn't gotten to know yet!! And then some more for the wedding. Maybe it's 'normal' and he's more worried about having to mingle with a whole lot of strangers? To me there is no implied symbolism or significance to such an invitation. But I'm still attending the wedding without him.:)
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 May 2009): Dude! Seriously! WAY too soon.
My view on family stuff is - when I get engaged THEN my family can meet who I date! Cos then it's definately going to be forever. Seriously I just don't need the drama over some guy who's gonna be gone in a year or two.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 May 2009): 4 months is plenty long enough to invite him to a wedding thats a month or so away id say. Maybe hes just the sort of person who doesnt like big social things where they dont know many people. I had an ex like that once. i wouldnt be too worried about the significance of it.
Maybe just mention in nearer his birthday when it becomes clear what his plans are and ask him why he really feel uncomfortable about going.
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