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writes:Okay, so I am 15 years old and never had a proper boyfriend. All my friends are dating all of the time, but I never do. They try to set me up with boys but I am very shy and turn them down. I have troubles opening up to anyone, especially my family so I pretend I am not intrested about boys around them. I have low self esteem and I feel ugly. I have heard that boys like girls who smile a lot but I have crooked teeth and can't afford braces so I hate smiling. Please help me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 January 2011): Thankyou, I will try and act more confident :) Your right, school first then boys. X
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 January 2011): so whats the problem, pleas please do yourself a favor and forget about it.
for atleast a few years. i didnt dat till i swas like 16 17 and they were short and akward relationships. you sound like me at that age .
well honey im 24 now and boy was i an ugly duckling but not so much now, remember the story?
i threw my self at the first guy who wanted to get serious with me.
it was a disaster. poor guy realized it wasnt meant to last but i did not let him go. by forcing him to stay it only hurt us both in the long run, bad.
i now know guys and i am all about avoiding them, friends maybe but nothing else. hope i never have sex again (sex IS overrated by the way) but guys will NEVER get that.
and if ur with a man and hes doesnt get what he wants,
guess what he will find a way to get it.
the will want u tell u they only want you, but thats not
true they will secrelty lust after your freidns,their female freinds epecially, sisters maybe, who knows.
Please, please tread litely. you will eventually date im sure of it, but please dont rush and definalty dont worry about it.
please focus on school and a good career.
coz this day in age education is important.
if a guy breaks ur heart it could make u drop out of school.
then ur stuck at home with a dead end job,
taking care of his kids while he goes out to bars
not fun
we rarely listen to our parents
mine said school and carrer first, the guys
well i didnt listen i had like no boyfriends in school and because of that i thought it was important to have one.
since i dint listen im a college drop out with children and an unhappy man and on hell of a broken heart.
(plus my children would have been hapier raised in a home where mommy didnt drop out and had a decent job)
and p.s. when a woman doesnt want men the they suddenly wacome running(puke)
plz worry about yourself first and confidence, guys who date girls with low self esteem use them. end of story.
if dad tell a daughter men are bad hes right he knows, he is one, he wants to protect his kiddo from them.
mom knows coz shes been there too, man i wish i would have listened
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reader, LovelessAct1  +, writes (3 January 2011):
A lack of self confidence is very common at your age; I guarantee every single girl you know is self conscious about a list of things. You aren't along there. The trick is to fake confidence. This doesn't mean act out or make an effort to standout, but simply put a little more assurance in your voice, little things like that :)
Try not to concern yourself too much with what you don't have, and find out what you DO have. I'm certain there is a guy who's interested in getting to know you, you just have to give them the chance and not feel so sorry for yourself. I'm sure things will look up :)
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