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writes:There was a new girl in my class this year, I noticed her on the first day. She's really beautiful, I started to like her a bit, but I hadn't talked to her much.A week ago I was waiting after school for a ride home. My mum was late so I was there long after everyone else. She was there too, she came and sat by me and we talked for almost an hour.Now I know her more, and I like her even more. The problem is that I don't know what to do, I'm too scared. I say hi to her sometimes but usually I don't talk to her for long. I want her lots but I'm too scared to tell her. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 April 2011): Being in similar situations, all I can say is that you have nothing to lose. Keep that in mind.Sometimes it's easier than you might think, it is very likely that she would feel like you don't like her if you don't say or do anything, girls are just people, too.Just muster the courage say "what's up?", maybe just nonchalant mention that you're going to see a movie, she could join, it could be fun.My two cents.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 April 2011): If you're too scared to do anything then just sit back and watch some asshole get with her instead.OP we all get afraid of these things because there's always a risk associated with them but if you give in to fear then you're just going to always be that guy that sits there and watches as the things he wants are taken by other people. Honestly you should be more afraid of being that guy.You should be more afraid of finding out in the future that she actually liked you too but you never did anything about so now she's dating some douche who doesn't deserve her.What you do is you go for it. You start talking to her more and you ask her out. That's it, doing it is as easy as that. How do you get past the fear? You don't, you accept the fear and you enjoy it because it's an awesome rush once you do something you're afraid to. You have two options OP, you can either be the guy that sits there longingly gazing at girls only to feel like shit for never actually doing anything about it, or you can be the guy that sees a girl he likes and always goes for it. Don't be scared of rejection, rejection is cool. You see not everyone can like everyone else, rejection means you tried, rejection is something be proud of and it is lesson to learn. The best thing about rejection though is when you don't let it get you down and you go off and try again. There's a great feeling from strong enough to do that. Many guys get crushed by rejection but honestly OP those are the guys that sit there longing, so afraid of doing anything that when they do try it's too late, they then retreat back into their little bubble and don't try again for a long time.Don't be that, be the winner, the guy who is not afraid to compete and is not afraid of getting hurt to get what he wants.
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reader, jodieleigh  +, writes (6 April 2011):
 tell her.. :) what do you have to lose.. she might even like you back but you wont know until you ask her :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 April 2011): hey i know its scaring to tell it.I have been through the same problem and i didnt tell her anything about it.After 3 months my friend told her that he loved her and then i got really dissapoionted that i didnt tell it to her the first time.It might be scaring but u should tell her
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 April 2011): I'm the same age as you maybe younger I'm only 13 and I always used to be afraid to talk to girls too. All u have to remember is that most of the time if a girls this age likes you they are probably just as nervous. Just channel your self confidence and when u REALLY think about it it Isnt hard to ask a girl out at all. Good luck and tell me how it goes!
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