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Too much control - advice please!

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Question - (15 March 2009) 2 Answers - (Newest, 15 March 2009)
A female United States age 30-35, anonymous writes:

Hi im 17 and i have been in a relationship with my boyfriend who is 27 for 6 months.

Everytime we have sex he wants to be in control. i dont mind it because in some strange way i like being overpowered by a man but my boyfriend knows his limits.

After we are done having sex he always finds something to shove up me and penetrate me with. It feels good at the moment and then when i stop moaning he starts pushing things in me harder. Then when hes done "penetrating" me he lifts me up turns me around and spanks my butt really hard has me crouch backwards under him and penetrates me from behind with his penis then pulls my hair.

I have to admit sometimes i like it rough and other times it's like ow that really hurt. i know he doesnt intentionally mean to hurt me but i don't know if things are getting out of control. Im open for any advice.

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A female reader, loveprincess United Kingdom +, writes (15 March 2009):

loveprincess agony auntu should both be able to enjoy sex

but if he crosses the line u need to tell

the only way to to sit down and talk to each other about it

i need to take into mind that he is more advanced that u

remind him about that

i hope this advice has helped

Gabriella

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (15 March 2009):

You need to have a frank discussion with your boyfriend. He is doing things you find uncomfortable and as long as you don't tell him he will not know. If he cares for you he will listen and change his ways. If he resists it might be time to let him go.

I would also wonder about the age gap as well.

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