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writes:Yeah, yeah. "Size doesn't matter unless " I've heard that before.My penis is just barely 4 inches long, 4 inches in circumference (around), and 1.4 inches thick (across) when hard.I get so insecure when people tell me "Oh it's okay, you're almost average" because I'm not. I'm not almost average at all.I've put off having sex because I'm absolutely terrified of what could/would happen. I'm terrified of rejection, terrified of criticism, terrified of being made fun of, and terrified of being heartbroken over this. I'm still a virgin.Some girls tell me it doesn't matter, but I feel like they're not being 100% honest to me and, more importantly, to themselves.I care a lot about if she's satisfied or not and I would feel awful if she tries to make me feel better at her expense. I want it to be satisfying for the both of us.I need help to get the confidence to get past this...It's driving me crazy because I know I shouldn't be worried but I can't help it. What's wrong with me?How do I gain the confidence for myself to be able to get past this?
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 September 2010): My current partner is smaller than anyone else I've been with, but he's the best lover I've ever had. I'm not really bothered about his size because I love him for who he is, and I love all of him.
I think if you can learn to do things with your hands that'll make her cum before you even get to sex, she'll be so horny she won't care. (Not that 4" is particularly small.) I've been there with 1". Now THAT is comedy. 4" is fine.
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reader, Gabrielle Stoker +, writes (6 September 2010):
 4 inches is a lovely size. I'm not being nice, trust me - niceness isn't what I do. I've probably seen more penises than most people and can assure you that:
a) 4 inches is actually not that much smaller than normal
b) It's enough for a vaginal orgasm if you're using it right (I cum easily though - may not apply for all)
c) It's honestly a wonderful size for giving blowjobs. Just so pleasurable knowing I have the whole thing in my mouth, that all that he has to offer is...well, you get the picture.
Bottom line: the woman who loves you will love all of you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 September 2010): Coming from a sexually active woman- the bigger it is, the more it hurts. You are not small by any means. I knew a guy once with a 1 incher hard. THAT is what girls laugh at. You are the perfect length to hit all the right spots. You can enjoy soo many more positions than a guy with a larger penis can. Why? At about 6+ inches you start hitting the cervix. And girth doesn't matter much- wide penises just cause soreness faster. It stretches the girl out which actually can hurt A LOT.
Trust me. I'm not just being nice. You're ok. I hate when guys have an ok sized penis and start getting upset because it isn't 6-7inches. I wouldn't even get close to a 7inch penis. That would hurt sooo bad.
You also will get to enjoy rougher and harder sex without worrying about hurting her, which she will probably love. My fiance is on the upper size of average and still gets me sore much faster than I would like.
Start out with lots of yummy foreplay. Learn the girl's weak spots. Tease before going for the kill. Start with a finger, then go for some oral. Make her cum at least once before you start having sex. Start out with her on top, and go hard and fast. Hold her hips angled forward and you should hit just right. Then she should be mush, and the rest is up to you. Since you are a good size, you have sooo many positions to choose from. I believe doggy style, reverse cowgirl, and missionary with her legs over your shoulders will be your best friends. With your length, you will go to just the perfect depth and you don't have to hold back.
Trust me on this one. Fast and hard = your best friend. Deep-reaching positions will also be your best friend.. Or you can experiment to see what you like best.
I know tons of girls with guys with huge penises who can only enjoy sex briefly before they are in huge amounts of pain, and are extremely limited for positions and that disappoints them. Of course they love the guy so they don't mind as much, but still.
Stop focusing on the size of your penis. Start focusing on creative ways to make a girl scream.. Because a confident guy who knows what he's doing in the bedroom is sooo much sexier than a huge penis. TRUST ME.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 September 2010): Look for petite/short/small girls. Small girls tend to have smaller parts down there too.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 September 2010): The way to get confidence is to make love to a woman who cares enough about you to work with what you have. Most women with any character are NOT going to laugh or even comment on it.
4" is enough to get her off... women do NOT need a long shaft, their clit is right on the surface! Find someone who will TEACH you how to pleasure her... the greatest gift any of us can give to our partners is to educate them on what feels good. Any woman that knows her own body will show you exactly how to make love to her with your penis. Forget about your size, and go for it.
oh, keep in mind that 4" goes into her mouth a hell of a lot better than 5", 6" or more... you're in for a lifetime of deep throating, and girls are likely to be more apt to allow you to try anal sex with them.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 September 2010): I have a sub-average penis myself (barely 5"). I've been with my wife for 15 years and have never gotten her off w/ vaginal intercourse. She made the mistake of telling me about a well-endowed former lover who could give her an orgasm in certain positions. This has crushed my confidence to no end. She tells me that she couldn't be more satisfied w/ our sex life. Sometimes I feel that she rushes me to finish so that I can then manually give her an orgasm. For women, sex is a more emotional experience than physical one (at least I hope). If they feel connected enough to you to have sex, then your size won't matter. If it does, then she is a trashy ho and you are better off without her.
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reader, Rav attack  +, writes (4 September 2010):
 It depends on how good you are, i think i have a small penis but i can make my girlfriend scream in bed. she says im amazing. if you can make a girl cum using your fingers you can make her cum with your penis too, no matter how big it is. the best thing for you to do i think is to just accept your size and forget about it. confidence is key
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reader, Scott french  +, writes (4 September 2010):
Hi mate, i am not trying to make u feel better. But ur size is ok. Seriously. My size is just really similar to urs. So dont panic. There is nothing u and me can do. Maybe this is due to generic issue. As long as ur one works well, then u r fine. Btw, r u asian? If u r an asian, then u size is just normal. If u r not, then so what? Some european even got the smaller than urs. I have seen that porn movie. I could not even see thos penis at all until he spread this legs. So u and me r lucky. Be proud and say it out loud. ' i got a cock' lol
Hope this helps
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reader, Oceano +, writes (4 September 2010):
 If a girl truly loves you, she won't care that much about your penis size. It does matter, not going to lie to you. If you're good at oral and finger work, you could make up for whatever is lacking in the sex department. Confidence is everything sometimes. You being so scared of what a girls reaction might be, means you will never have sex due to that fear. A girl is not just going to stop at the sight of your penis and put her clothes back on. Your penis does not make you invaluable, so stop thinking that.
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