A
female
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:Hi, this is my situation:My friend sent a message to my crush/guy friend asking him how he felt about me. He didn't answer. So she told me to ask him directly on msn. I did and he said he only sees me as a friend. So I'm really confused because he does these things all the time:-Stares at me during class and when we're doing something together-Blushes when we talk-Walks me to the library-Really shy around me-Gets jealous-Stays online to talk to me for almost 2 hours at a time-Says hi to me every time he sees me-Stands and walks really really close to meCould it be that yes, he does like me, but he doesn't want to date me because he's worried about 'what if we do date a?nd break up?' and doesn't want to ruin our friendship? Is another possibility that he was weirded out because he felt like he was put on the spot?There's more...How come the guy(same as above) take so long to respond to my messages nowadays or not respond at all? Normally he'd answer right away and we'd talk for a long time.And why does he act so differently around me than around his friends?Thank you for your help.
View related questions:
crush, jealous, msn, shy Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
reader, anonymous, writes (16 February 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you so much! Your answer was not only insightful but was also very helpful. =)
A
male
reader, PeterPan +, writes (16 February 2009):
 I kind of think you've answered this one yourself -- key word? SHY! Yeah, I think you put him on the hot-seat by being direct with him and asking him how he feels about you... did you really expect a real answer? All his other mannerisms definitely seems like he might be interested, but doesn't really know how to go about saying so (especially if he can't get a read on if you're interested in him).
I don't really know what to suggest than to try to have another chat with him (live, not on MSN) and don't be so direct... just flirt a little bit and see what that gets you.
As far as the lag-time in his response to messages, if you put him on the spot, then he's probably feeling really self-conscious and is (again) trying to figure you out in a non-committal kind of way that doesn't cost him any more embarrassment than necessary. If he's having a hard time with all this, even the silliest of questions like "can I get your notes from class" is going to fill his head with "what does she really want" and "am I reading too much into all this?"
...............................
|
