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writes:i told my best friend the guy i liked then two days later she went out with him; the guy also happens to be my best guy friend. now im really mad at my friend whose going out with him. do i have a right to be mad at her? and should i tell my friend i like him?
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reader, aphrodites_pendant  +, writes (6 May 2007):
 Dear anonymous,
this situation is never an easy one. I should know i have been there myself. The most two important questions you have ask yourself in this situation are:
1. How good a friend is she? - she knew how much you liked him and still went out with him. Had anything gone on with them before? Was she in the same situation as you? Was it completely clear to her how you felt about him?
2. How good a friend is he? - by telling him you have to be prepared that you may not get the answer you want. My strong advice is to way up how much his friendship means to you and does it out weigh your other feelings for him?
The thing is no one can tell you how you should or shouldn't feel. Talk to your friend and listen to what she has to say then decide if you want to go ahead and talk to him. It is important to think things through and not to jump in head first. Remember friendships last longer than boyfriends.
Good luck!
Aphrodites Pendant x
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reader, QueenPeah +, writes (6 May 2007):
 Yes you have every right yo be mad at her. and becuase she goes out with him you might want to wait till they break up and then tell him you like him
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reader, Girl Pants  +, writes (6 May 2007):
 Hi there
Maybe instead of feeling mad at your friend, you should feel happy that both of your good friends are together.
Maybe you didn't know that your best friend likes him first, without you knowing.
You're still young and i bet there is a guy out there which is perfect for you. Just don't be mad at her cos right now she needs your understanding. To understand that she didn't steal him from you. Now that they sort of like each other, don't break them up cos best friends don't do that.
Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 May 2007): well i think you have a right to be mad at your friend but don't take it to far and start fist fighting or anything. you might want to tell your guy friend and you might not. thats your choice but if you think you need to tell him then tell him if nothing happens after that then sorry but ur out of luck!!!
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reader, Helen Help! :) +, writes (6 May 2007):
 hey huni did they like each other before you told your best girl mate that u liked your best guy mate? If they did i no its a bit hurtful and ur best girl mate because she new u liked him should of just said to you look i no u like (whateva his name is) but weve sorta had a thing for each other for ages and were gunna take it bit further and make it official im sorry. summert like tht not jus gone out with him n not told you thats not what a real mate would do. but if nothing was goin on with them both before you told ur best gal mate u liked him then shes probably jus bein selfish i had a so called friend who always used to flirt with the lads i told her i liked n it was awful cuz the one i really liked sed he really like her n tht was cuz she was a gret flirt and it really hurt me. either way theres not a lot you can do to stop them if thy like each other if it hurts u too much to b around them thn i suggest u dont hang round with them till u feel bout them bein togeather and u can bare to see them togeather and in future dnt tell that gal mate who u fancy. good luck let me no how it goes :)
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