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writes:My boyfriend and I split after 2.5 years...he moved across country and told me he just wanted to be friends. This devastated me--I saw a future with him and did not see this coming. The reason he said for this was when he first asked me to go with him, I said no because I wanted some time to make sure this is what I wanted. He took this as rejection and completely shut me out.He calls me once a day or sends me an email but I feel that this is out of lonliness (he moved to a VERY small city where we lived in LA). We talked the other night and he made reference to me coming out to see him and visiting this place and that place, etc. I've been so heartbroken over this whole thing that I don't know if I should even go see him. I feel it might be worse in the end and I'll have to go through all those feelings again. The only reason I would go is to have one final meeting where I ask him if we are going to work this out or not. I am willing to move as I realize that my life is not the same without him in it. What are your thoughts??...thank you!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 June 2008): Okay this seems easy,You Both Are In LOVE!!
It is pretty obvious that neither one of you can be without each other so if you ask me,go visit him have fun see how you like it out there and if you do then work somthing out so you can be with him.
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reader, jenfurr  +, writes (13 June 2008):
When your boyfriend moved and split with you did he tell you the reason? Was it because he didn't think the relationship would work and was worth fighting for, or was it because he loved you and didn't think it was fair to not be there in person for you? Because it sounds to me as if he just can't stick to his guns. I don't think it was fair of him to shut you out of his life the way you did as of course you're going to need to think about your decision and I'd advice you to be wary of this character flaw.
I think that you need to ask yourself whether YOU want to be with your boyfriend or not. 2.5 years is a long time to be with someone and there's no point in not remaining friends but for this man, are you really willing to leave your home and support system? I'd have a long think and question whether this man is as willing to sacrifice for you as you are for him. If you decide to meet him, I think his answer to this question should play a huge part in your decision.
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