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writes: Sooner or later you're going to have to take a risk. Our human nature doesn't allow us to offer guarantees or prohibit us from making mistakes. You can hate cheaters, but how do you know you'll never be the cheater somewhere down the line?We all make mistakes, and we try to atone for those mistakes as best we can. Should all criminals get a life-sentence because they may repeat their crimes? Should you be held accountable and punished for your past mistakes for the rest of your life? I'm sure you're as human as the rest of us. Just because you haven't committed a crime thus far, doesn't mean you never will, does it?He was upfront and honest with you. You're only dating at this point, and in the short time that you have; it isn't enough time to fully assess or discern the character of the man you're with. He doesn't fully know what you're capable of, how insecure you are, or how reliable you are. He doesn't know if your insecurities amount to trust issues that are so serious they border on mental-disorder. Some jealous or insecure people are dangerous. They make life miserable and they drag their baggage from one failed relationship to another. Never getting over past mishaps, and expecting perfection from everyone but themselves.In short, he's taking just as much risk in dating you as you are in dating him. He doesn't know how you've treated the men you've dated in the past. Give me a break about that "once a cheater always a cheater" manta. He has no idea what horrid behavior you might be hiding about yourself, or could be exposed somewhere down the line. You can be a victim, and let your paranoia and self-righteousness rob you a possibly good relationship; or you can take a chance, and deal with things when you cross that bridge. If you don't think you will ever trust him, let him go.Girlfriend, in my experience, cheating isn't the worst thing people can do to you. They can be as faithful as you can depend on the sun will continue to shine even when there are clouds; but can hurt you in unspeakable ways. He may have learned from his mistakes; and now he has to take a chance with his heart hoping you've also learned from yours.If it's too much of a head-trip for you; then don't waste either of your time. Just dump him, and find a guy who probably won't admit it. Most, who have, won't!Due to some sort of glitch, the response didn't post under the OP's post.
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