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writes:I've been going out with this guy for some time, I think about two months now, and we've gone out five times. Because of his schedule, he works all the time, which explains why we just gone out a few times. I like hanging out with him; he's smart and has a sense of humor. He's basically a nice guy. On our forth date, when we said our goodbyes, he surprised me by grabbing me and landing a kiss on my forehead. I thought it was pretty cute actually. I thought to myself that "okay, maybe he wants to be intimate soon." On the next date, I gave him a kiss on the cheek, you know to thank him, but I think he wanted to his kiss me. Honestly, I'm scared, probably because of the fact that I've never been kissed. I don't really know what to do when it suppose to happened. I think I'm quite uncomfortable with the fact of being that intimate with someone. I know for some of you it's nothing, but for me it's a big deal. When I left, he looked a bit disappointed. That's when I knew he really wanted to kiss me, but I'm not ready. Like I said, I don't have experience in that area, and I'm terrified to go to the next level. Does this mean that he basically wants nothing else from me but sex and make out sessions? That is definitely not what I want. Are his intentions noble? Is it about time for me to kiss him? I have a feeling he won't ask me out again. Any help is appreciated! Thanks! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 September 2009): well if there aint no chemistry after 2 months then let the dude go.
Personally speaking if I like a woman like that Ill probably kiss her on first or second date, kissing is a great way to see if you guys are actually compatible.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 August 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the replies!
Maybe I should loosen up a bit, but I haven't had any relationship experiences that's why I'm scared about this kiss. I want to take this slow. I want my first kiss to be magical and romantic, not like it's rushed or that he is obligated to kiss me because we've been going out a couple of times.
Nevertheless, I also have the feeling that there is no chemistry there. That's the other problem. My heart would beat so fast when I see him, but now, it's different. I don't know. I'm quite confused really.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 August 2009): It sounds like you're being true to yourself so far, which is the best way to be. If I were to read between the lines I'd guess that you haven't had much experience with relationships. If that's true and it's all new to you, then all you can do is let things move at their own pace. If you've gone out five times, it's probably not too soon to communicate your wants, aspirations, and fears, at least as far as intimacy goes.
If his intentions *are* noble and the chemistry is there, he'll continue to let you set the pace. When it's the right time, things will happen. If he doesn't choose to wait, he wasn't the right one.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 August 2009): well there is always a first time for everything. Dont be so terrified and scared to kiss him, maybe this is a chance for u to feel what its like. Im pretty sure most peoples first time kissing wasnt pro. Loose the fear and let loose for a bit. And if u try it and feel umcomfortable about it talk to him about it. Maybe he can help u out or do something to make u feel comfortable. TRY IT!!!! what if u really like it?....the only way to really find out what it feels like is if u try it.
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