To chase or not to chase?

A male age 41-50, *aleb writes:

I got this problem I'm undecided on what I to do. See the story goes like this. I'll admit growing up I never was really social, I was that insecure kid when i came to everything. I ended up meeting this wonderful girl 4 years ago. At the time I thought very little about myself. I knew though that she was everything to me. We bonded great, and I knew that if I asked her out she would've said yes because we were just that close. Because of how I was 4 years ago I lacked the balls to do it EVEN THOUGH she totally liked me. We went to dances together, hung out, did everything yet I never asked her out. So next year shes still hanging with me she still likes me above all other guys. Same situation as the year before. Next year I move away, I still saw her, we went to dances still. She still liked me but she did date 1 person that lasted like 2 days, before she came back to me. Next year we hardly talk communicating with each other slowly went away. Then the summer comes and she asked me out, of course I said ok but when the day came she must've changed her mind (this was last summer). The problem is I spent 2 years insecure then when I moved I met some people who kicked me into shape for the next 2 years. I really changed I'm a whole different person and thats why she asked me out last summer. So now I'm here in November, she has a BF. I dated other people and I still think about her. I'll get all soft and say she truly did, from the first moment I met her, steal my heart. Now that I changed and I'm ready to take on any challenge. I don't know if I should go after her. Tell her how I felt. Get her back ;D. I'm not sure if she is going to give me another chance...

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