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writes:I wrote this question originally:http://www.dearcupid.org/question/whats-the-best-way-for-me-to-meet.htmlThank you for your advice. I won't trust online dating due to scams, so where else could I meet women with the same interests?I may try dating older women. Despite the fact I could be criticised for having nothing in common with them, the topics in social situations discussed - Mortgages, kids going off to college, home care, financial news, local news etc. - aren't alien to me as me and my family/grandmother talk about these kind of things regularly.I'm not the sort who goes clubbing and drinking excessively, Diet Coke (for all its caffeination - is that even a word?) is about the strongest I'll drink when out. If I do go drinking, it's always at home with family or in social situations.Where could I meet older women? I'm not talking much much older, only 10-15 years maximum.Work was suggested, but there's an unwritten coda that it's verboten (forbidden) there, so I'm avoiding any opportunity there.I admit that I like some of the traffic wardens I see, but am too scared to talk to them/become friends with them due to their authority (OK, so they don't have powers of arrest, like policemen/women do). I usually see them around what we call in England "Controlled Zone", "Disc Zone" (parking discs, sounds like record shop though!), "Meter Zone", "Pay and Display Zone" or "Ticket Zone" parking (these have big signs so you know when you're in the zones!)Ironically, I can't drive though... for now, anyway.How can I boost my confidence in this area, especially concerning the above situation with traffic wardens who I see on the street everyday?I have a job voluntarily helping people with Down's syndrome, but although I can make friends there, dating staff is verboten as mentioned above, so what would be the alternativeThanks
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reader, StarryEyes101 +, writes (19 August 2011):
 I agree with Anon.
If you really want to meet someone. Push yourself out into the world. Join a gym, go for long walks, swimming, quiet pubs with people that you work with or something. I know it is hard trying to meet someone, but they're not gonna come to you if you don't go anywhere. I agree with the online dating, and also Facebook. That's a No No in my book. Unless you were already friends with someone on FB and you actually know them. That can turn out pretty cool.
Be yourself. Don't be afraid to talk to people. But don't come on too strong =)
Hope this helps
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 August 2011): there is no fool proof way to meet someone, you just have to be social, go out and about and take yourself to places where you are going to have opportunities to talk to lots of different people. I'm not sure about hitting on traffic wardens. If a conversation naturally comes up one day, that might be okay,and there is nothing wrong with giving it a try (because otherwise you will never know for sure), but for the most part people like that are just trying to get on with their jobs, and there is nothing worse than being hit on by a customer or someone like that when you are trying to do your work.
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