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male
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:I've known this girl for about 4-5 months, we met at college and from the moment she joined our group we got on. The thing is not long after i had a crush on her, nothing to big and i just ignored it as ive had many crushes on girls from my previous class and i knew it would always go away. But im finding it hard to fight my feelings for her. Its also made me feel very strange and confused because I've never been one to want a girlfriend, happy as i am and with life.Im not like many other guys, im not awesomely confident, with friends yes i am but im a pretty quiet guy, im religious(which she is aware of) and to be honest not the best looking guy in the world.I think she likes me but im not to sure if shes figured out how i feel about her as shes friendly with anyone. We;ve hung out afew times out of college just in town or gone to the park - where i got quite close to her but i never got the courage to say anything to her. She came back to mine for a short while last time we met up as well. We will be hanging out again soon, i see her at college alot anyway but its not an easy place to "be together". I dont wanna make her uncomfortable but then again i dont want her to say no as our friendship means alot to me. I just dont know how to bring the subject up or how to act or anything. Do i come out and say it and how? or do i try and give hints and maybe make a move? Please help sorry for the essay
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 August 2010): Yes, do lunch or coffee and remind her the books at home as this is a purely social 'hang-out'. Honestly, just be confident and casual and if this girl is into you, you will be on your second date in no time. However, being the realistic I am, if she is, dwell on it for a tiny bit of time and give yourself a pat on the back for trying :). I hope it works out, goodluck!
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reader, Moo's Mum  +, writes (27 August 2010):
 I really feel for guys and am glad I'm a girl cause this situation must be one of the worst things you guys have to do. My suggestion is to ask her to join you for lunch and go somewhere quite swanky but within your budget. Over lunch start asking her lots of questions about her likes, dislikes and family history etc. Then you can casually say that you really enjoy spending time with her and would she be interested in spending more time together.
good luck dude we are all behind you.
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