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writes:I've just started dating a French guy. He has spent lots of time abroad, and speaks English fluently. But so far we have had a few awkward moments that I'm sure are down to cultural differences. Sometimes he seems to be so cold and stand-offish, but then other times he says the most sincere, most heart warming things. We get on really well for the most part, but the other day I wouldn't let him pay for my meal and he was almost angry about it. A friend (who is not French but has dated a French guy) said that it's customary for them to pay for you, and it's no big deal. So... I want to know - are there any other tips for dating a Frenchman? Any big "faux pas" I should avoid? I really want to get off on a good foot with him! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 April 2010): You must not have read the book, because it doesn't literally to be a bitch. It just means don't be a doormat.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 May 2009): I think a lot of men, no matter what nationality would be offended if you refused to allow them to pay.
All I know is my mother is French and she is very cold! On the other hand my father is Italian, and just the opposite...Thank God, I take after my father!
I was engaged to a French Canadian a while back, he loved spending money on me!
Follow Gina's advice and check out the website she has provided.
Good Luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 May 2009): To anonymous female below, I appreciate the advice, but I think that's an awful book! He eventually did pay for it, I just offered to a few times to be polite. I have been very successful in dating so far, and have had many successful long term relationships - and I don't buy into this idea of being a princess, or a "bitch" to lure men. But thank you anyway!
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 May 2009): Why wouldn't you let him pay for your meal? I think you need to learn about dating guys in general, not just French ones. Men who like you want to court you and that means they get pleasure out of paying for you and treating you well. It's nice to offer to pay but for you to not accept him paying is offensive to a man. It's not about sexism or equality, it's just that men who are really interested in you love the chase and the pursuit and part of that is them showing you that intent and that includes being a gentleman. Read "Why Men Love Bitches". You not letting him pay for lunch was like throwing cold water in his face!
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 May 2009): Oui - go up to him and say Je ronronne.... (I purr) you have to roll the r's... its from a book French for cats by henri de la babe.
found this:
http://www.articlealley.com/article_778116_39.html
lol...enjoy...bon chance,
le étoile de mer.x.
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