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writes:Hey guys I have a bit of a sex problem arising. I'm not going to say I am the most gifted at it by any means so here's the problem.I'm dating this girl who has been with a few guys in the past and during sex not one of them has been able to last longer than 3 minutes. I know I can last longer than that, but like I said I'm not the most gifted and I really want to blow her away. Is there any advice you guys can give me to last for as long as she needs and recommend a mind blowing position? I really want to impress her, and show her sex can actually be enjoyable.Thanks!
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (15 April 2011):
 My "trick" - if you want to call it that - has long been to "please her first." In most cases, several minutes of good lovin' with ten or more minutes of cunnilingus brings her to orgasm. Thereafter, is usually matters little how long it takes you to release. Perhaps in military terms, it would be called a "preemptive strike," but I was never military. It just usually solves the problem of making sure you please your girlfriend/wife/sex partner.
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reader, Odds +, writes (14 April 2011):
 TranceDr has the right idea about not comapring yourself to past lovers. That way lies insecurity and unhappiness. But, the goal of lasting long for its own sake is a fine one, so here's some ideas.
Long term, your best bet is to train yourself when you masturbate. Deliberately take longer at it, work yourself up to whatever your target number is.
Short term, two tricks. One, back off in speed and power, or even withdraw completely if you're getting to close, switch to teasing with the tip or fingering her. Only do that once or twice, though - after that she'll get annoyed. Should still buy you a few extra minutes, though, and only doing it once or twice will heighten her anticipation.
Another trick is to find a position that works best for you to prolong things. Problem is, this is basically different for every guy. For instance, I can last as long as I want by putting her on her back, putting her legs in the air, pulling her to the edge of the bed (or counter, or table, or hood of her car... helps to have a blanket for that last one) and standing there, going at it while holding her hands or hips. But I've heard other guys claim that makes them get off faster than anything else. Look back on your own experience, and find something.
You'll get some allowance for the first few times not being perfect, if she's even slightly reasonable. Take that opportunity to find a position that works for both of you, then rock that position like crazy once you've figured it out.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 April 2011): If I were you, Id start a whole new category of who can last long lol... and just flat out go down on her like an animal and see just how long she can last against you. Youre starting to compare yourself to her previous partners and thats not good as youll develop a possible emotional issue and that can bring pressure and anxiety into the bedroom with her. Good luck man.
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