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male
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41-50,
anonymous
writes:My wife and I have been together 10 years and married 4. We have always been very sexual and open about our fantasies. I originally introduced her to the experience with a women and she loved it. It was very exciting for her! We would go to strip clubs all the time and play with the women there together and it would turn her on. Then it grew into her being turned on by other women touching me. We never really had a true threesome with any of these women just lots of petting and playing. We never really went there cause we didnt feel comfortable with who they were and the possibility of catching something. Now the strip bars are not as fun cause its kind of a been there done that deal but she still has the threesome fantasy and talks about us with another woman during sex. Then suddenly she brought up the idea of us getting with her best friend of 20 years who is also at about the same level of curiousity and drive about threesomes. With a little less experience with women. Her friend just hasn't taken the playing and petting step yet. Her BF has told us and me that her fantasy is to be with me and my wife but only says this when drunk or feels brave. She is a shy girl when it comes to sex and sometimes feels like she is not experienced enough for a threesome. We have an upcoming trip where we will be traveling for a night of dancing and drinking to another city. My suddenly mentioned during sex one night that she wants a threesome on this trip. She is really into the idea and is planning on going all out with no stops. I know I will have to get them drunk to loosen them both up and I will probably have to be the one to take the lead cause they are both hesitant when it comes down to it. So what should I do?? Should I do this and make it happen all out or should I make it a night to break the ice and just go as far as touching and petting and feeling what its like first? I'm afraid that they will both freak about going all out after its happened and all will be lost for the future? Should I have my wife get her into the mood by making the move on her and I step in when ready? This will be our first so I don't want to make a bad move. And this is probably the only girl my wife will actually make a move on cause they are both not aggressive at all.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 February 2010): Its not really orchestrating. I'm just trying not to make it all about me and make sure the first time is enjoyable for both of them. And they are going to turn to me to keep the connection throughout the night. I have read from other sites that you have to make it about the girls and not about your fantasy. I'm just trying to get some ideas on how to start it for them cause its almost as if they are looking to me to introduce the feeling to them cause they both got comfortable with their sexuality through me cause I was open with them and introduced them to something that they were very curious about but never had the guts to do. Its grown over time.
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reader, Carrot2000 +, writes (9 February 2010):
 If someone has to drink to relax before "doing what she really wants", I would still take it as a warning sign that this may not be the person you want to involve in this set-up.
You recognize the possibility that your wife and her BF may freak out after the threesome, and there's a real possibility this might happen. You wife may have been turned on by interaction with strangers--women neither of you would ever have to see again--but watching you penetrate her best friend may cause some problems.
It also sounds like you are doing a lot of "orchestrating" here. If this is truly a shared fantasy, let them move at their own pace and have control over the gilr-on-girl action.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 February 2010): Its not that I have to get her drunk for her to do it. But she is shy when it comes to doing what she really wants. So a drink just helps her relax..not plastered drunk just a relaxer. She has always said that she wants my wife and that my wife is the only one she would have sex with but the shy side of her holds her back. We have already spent time half naked in a jacuzzi and the two of them did some very minor petting in a shower they shared together once. But they both hold back cause they are both the not agressive type
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reader, Carrot2000 +, writes (8 February 2010):
I think you should find someone that the two of you are not close to for this. If you have to get the BF drunk, she's probably more into the fantasy of a threesome and may regret it when sober.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 February 2010): I aslo didn't mention that they are constanly playing jokes and teasing me about the idea of them messing around and having threesomes together. They really get a kick out my excitement. So this is it for me......I'm determined to make something finally happen.
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