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writes:hello, I need help please: tree days ago, everything was good between me and my boyfriend, he was caring and very romantic even if I didn't have much time to be with him because of my exams but the last time I called him he was not as he used to be, he didn't talk much and he said I'd better call him at night, I called, his phone was off, I didn't understand and I sent him a text message telling him why he turned his phone off... the next day, no answer, I started to panic...then I opened his facebook page and I saw that that day he posted a comment to a girl saying how beautiful she is... I was mad and I sent him a text saying ok, it's over between us !! I still not getting any anwers from him, I don't know what to do, one time a was the love of his life and the next time he disappears like this?? we have been together for 3 months but we were on and off for about four years...it hurts very bad and I don't know what to do...
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reader, laetitia  +, writes (1 June 2010):
 Wow! What a sleek player! He is playing you my dear and he is using the strategy "Admit nothing, deny everything and make counteraccusations" said by Roger Stone. Don't fall for that. Move on. He is immature and he is a layer. On top of everything he is telling you that you've given him bad treatment! Cut him off. He doesn't deserve YOUR time. You can find others to make your day!
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reader, kitty20 +, writes (31 May 2010):
kitty20 is verified as being by the original poster of the question thank you all so much,
actually he called me and was very upset because of my text and I just couldn't tell him what when wrong, I just couldn't tell him "why do you flirt with other people?" I guess I was afraid and speechless ... he kept saying "I didn't do anythin to deserve this kind of treatment" then he hung up the phone in my face ??? I don't know what is the next move for me and I really need him around to make my day...
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reader, YouWish  +, writes (31 May 2010):
 That guy sounds like a real winner. He actually did you a favor by shutting you out and posting that Facebook comment. You got to see that he is a confrontation avoider as well as a cheating jerk. Imagine if you had married him or moved in with him before discovering this about him. He is in love with only one person: Himself.
Believe me, there are better guys out there, and once you experience someone who loves you, you'll never care about this guy again. He is lint on your shoe.
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reader, laetitia +, writes (31 May 2010):
He is not in love with you, unfortunately. He might even be cheating with the other girl. Just move on. Don't expect him to call/text and if he will, don't reply to him. Completely ignore him for the the time being.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 May 2010): i really feel for you hun. i just posted a similar thread wondering if i should break up with my boyfriend. we have also been together a couple of months, but we have been on and off. my boyfriend also used to send flirty messages to women. he hasnt since we got back together, as far as i am aware, but i still cant get over what he did, but if he did do it now while we are together, i wouldnt be able to forgive him.i want to break up with him in a way because he is verbally abusive towards me when we chat online, but he can be really sweet, caring and funny in person, so he sounds kind of like your guy. men can be such jerks cant they ?.i guess all you can do is wait and see if he contacts you. give it three days at the most. i know its hard, but try to keep yourself busy in the meantime by being with family and friends, using the internet, or doing some kind of work. try not to look at your phone too much. if he does contact you, try to respond calmly and ask him whats wrong.try not to send lots of texts if he doesnt contact you, or it might just push him away. one reason i hate facebook is because , in my opinion, it gives people the chance to get up to something, and can ruin relationships. If he really loves you though, he wouldnt flirt with other people.tell him he has to stop flirting with other people if he wants to stay with you. I'm sorry i dont know what else to say, but maybe i can help more if he gets in contact with you, if you need more help then. i hope this helps in some way, and please keep us posted. i really hope he contacts you and that you two can sort things out !. Dont forget , we are all here to support you ! xx
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reader, Sagittarius1  +, writes (30 May 2010):
 Hi Kitty 20, firstly i know you may not agree with me rite now but if you are doing exams right now then don't let this guy get to you now i know its easier said then done but do not let him put you off your exams. Do not contact him anymore, you have tried and you can't do anymore than that don't keep texting him if you are getting no reply. If its over its over it will hurt for a while but believe me you will get over him. Give him the cold shoulder now and talk to your own friends, visit facebook yourself and talk to your friends there Kitty20 let him see that you do not care THERE ARE PLENTY MORE FISH IN THE SEA.
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