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*ishi911
writes:well me and my girlfriend had a steady long distance relationship for the past 3 years. she was always caring and loved me a lot.we had loadz of good times all along.i would go and meet her up during holidays n stuffsshe was a very studious and decent gal on the other hand i hardly studied and had other career options in mind..lately she was very scared and told me her parents wont approve our relationship and i used to get bugged everytime she started the topicnow she is about to complete her graduation and i have flunked for 2 years in a row in my college(i am a dj and she is a software engineer)n now we hardly speak to each other over fone n she wants to break up wit me saying she is confused n unable to make up her mind.she says she doesnt trust me anymorei dont call her up either but im sure as to we both love other a lot ...im so confused at the moment ,dont know whether to break up or not..kindly suggest a solution to my problem as my love life is hanging by a thread at the momentthankz !!!!!
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (31 May 2010):
 You have to ask her why she is confused.
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reader, rishi911 +, writes (31 May 2010):
rishi911 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanx for ur answers ,i really appreciate dat.i never forced my gal fren for anyhthing in life ..always gave her that much needed space ..
so i dont have any problems breaking up as i think its too late to start again.as i tried eerything to make it work but unfortunately failed miserably in my attempts
but the problem is my gal fren keeps calling me n i dont recieve her call.
why is she so confused???bcoz of this i am not able to get her out of my mind
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reader, chigirl +, writes (31 May 2010):
I dont understand what your education has to do with her not wanting to be with you? She said she didn't trust you, why is that? And why will her parents not approve of your relationship? If the parents did not approve, why did she stay with you for 3 years? If she wants to leave you the option is not whether or not you should leave her. If she wants to leave you dont have an option. But, if she continues to want to be with you, and you dont see her as a woman you will marry and be happy with, it is time to move on. You said her family will not accept you, so maybe you should find someone who you can have a future with.
And try and find something better suited for you. If you flunked 2 years maybe you should try a different study. Something you like and are good at as well.
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reader, laetitia  +, writes (30 May 2010):
 What to you want? Do you want to be with her or not?
If you want to be with her, then you should try to improve yourself and win her trust again. If you don't want to be with her, then break up.
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