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writes:I went on three dates with a guy who I really like and who seemed to like me as well but this most recent date was a week ago, and we went out then I ended up sleeping at his place. We didn't have sex and he wasn't pressuring me to, we just fooled around a bit. He was being respectful. However I haven't heard from him since and I'm thinking he's lost interest. Theres other reasons for me to think this without going into too much detail. For instance, he didn't ask me any questions this time even though I was asking him questions and he didn't seem to want to get to know me better, which was completely different from how he was on the first 2 dates.I haven't heard from him since a week ago, should I text him and just ask how his week was and take the risk that he won't message me back or should I just not say anything and see if he contacts me?
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 September 2014): I hate this in dating the old who should text thing. Well have neither of you text since staying over? In which case he might be thinking like you ' I can't text and show I'm keen ' or he might of text and it hasnt gone through.
Don't get me wrong it might be he has lost interest. But hey you stayed over and he didn't try it on. Wow even if he was thinking of ending it. At least he didn't get sex and clear off.
Anyhoo give him one txt if he doesn't reply at least you know where u stand
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (20 September 2014):
 You slept over and he was respectful and then turns around and stops talk to you?
Honestly, I'd say he is NOT that into you. Maybe that is WHY he held back when you spend the night. Because he had figured out that he wasn't as interested in you as he had first thought. Maybe he didn't FEEL a spark or passion for you. Instead of TELLING you this, he went silent hoping that this way he can "spare" your feelings and "spare" himself for telling you:"hey I don't think we are a match".
So while he was a gentleman, he is also a little bit of a coward.
Tough.... YOU could have texted him the next morning after sleeping there or the day after that... instead you WAITED a whole WEEK for him to get in touch, so ARE you really ALL that interested in him?
I'd forget about him and move on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 September 2014): Don't text back. Let him text you, be classy, be cool, be calm, be confident. If he wants you, let him show you he deserves you.....by at least texting you.
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reader, Fari  +, writes (20 September 2014):
 The suspense is killing. I know the feeling but there has to be a reason why he isnt texting or getting in touch with you because 3 dates was alot. Dont jump to conclusions just yet. I think you should text back, let it be short and simple and dont seem so desperate. He may just be busy with work or just needed a little time to think. If he doesnt text back with in a week then maybe he is seeing or interested in someone else.
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