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writes:Ok so i have a dilemma. Im 29 and consider myself good looking n a great catch for someone but i have hep c from past drug use n i also have mrsa that sometimes reoccurs mildly and my ex gf cheated on me 3 years ago n got hpv n than gave it to me so thats 3 diseases i carry. Im recently out of jail, rehab and a halfway house totaling 15 months of treatment. I have been out fr about a month n its been about 2 and a half years since my last relationship and im over her. Im ready to start dating because im lonely n haven't had sex in 2 years lol i feel like a virgin again n i hate it. But really its not about the sex i want companionship. Well with my 3 diseases i have it isn't easy. Im a responsible man n i would never be with someone without telling them that there are risks to dating me. But im afraid of ridicule n being made an outcast. Please help me all my frieds and family say im a great guy with a bigheart n i have alot to give. I just want to not feel lonely anymore n share my life with another woman. Thanks in advance
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 April 2013): So Very Confused--seems like you are confused. HPV is one of those viruses that will be with you for a lifetime. It is kind of like how chicken pox doesn't really go away. You can still get shingles from the chicken pox virus much later in life.
HPV can and does cause cancer (cervical, anal, penile, oral etc.) if you have HPV, you are at a higher risk of developing cancer FOR THE REST OF YOUR LIFE.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (18 April 2013):
 Hello WhiteRabbit,
My brother has HEP-C and has since about 1987. His husband has HIV and has for 20 years. They are together about 15 years and do not share their diseases with each other. I probably had HPV twice in the past but I am currently clear (HPV is the only sexually transmitted disease that can clear itself according to my GYN and stuff I have read online). I have a friend who has had 3 lousy bouts of MRSA last year… horrible stuff but once gone is GONE.
To me your bigger handicaps are recently out of jail and rehab…. CONGRATS ON REHAB! I live with an active addict…. You are walking the harder road than he is with your recovery. I wish you well with it.
I think if you are upfront about your disorders (both physical and mental (recovery is a very mentally taxing process) that you are being fair and prudent. I think that you need to be your positive smiling self and not sell yourself short and let the women you meet make the choice about you after being given the facts… but I would not start the first date with “hi I’m steve I have HPV, HEP-C and MRSA oh and I’ve done jail time and I’m in recovery” That’s better saved for maybe the end of date two….
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 April 2013): There's a site called positive singles which you can go on and tonnes of other ones. Don't let having those diseases hold you back, you're not only one who has them so go find others who do.
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reader, R1  +, writes (18 April 2013):
 It is early days. They normally say you should wait 2 years from rehab before you get into a relationship. Why not use this time to get hep c treatment, with all the new drug trials out there it can be as short as 3 months! Sort your health out get your head straight then look at getting into a healthy relationship.
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reader, peanut_gallery +, writes (18 April 2013):
There are dating sites that cater to those with various medical problems of this nature.
All the best!
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