A
male
age
36-40,
*nonyman
writes:Hey everyone i'm 22, here's the deal. The last girl i was involved in before now was in 2005, the less said about that the better. Anyway that's long gone, and i've been talkng to this girl who's the same age as me for a month or two now (actually met her 2 or 3 years back, nothing to shout about happened then). It's been all facebook, we've been flirting around poking each other for months liking and commenting on each others status'. She's really cute and i seem to get along with her quite well. Anyway over the previous weekend the heat turned up with it all, we ended up talking, flirting about and poking a real lot! Sort of getting to know each other. She dropped me her number and we texted all Saturday night. I kept things going and found out that she wanted to see a band on the Sunday night, but she'd been let down and couldn't go. So i said i would go with her, and to my delight she seemed very keen on the idea. I picked her up and drove down, some of her friends were there so i didn't bug her too much, but i sort of let her have her freedom but made sure i talked to her enough so she wouldn't feel like i was ignoring her. We had a general good time, she seemed happy enough there, i was happy enough, we had a little dance around. We kissed goodnight when i dropped her home, there was only a short kiss no making out type thing. The way she leant towards me didn't suggest the need for it, or she wanted that. She may not be that type of 'go for it on the first date' girl anyway.She dropped me a text message when i got home saying she had a good night, i replied of course. She even posted on facebook that she had a good night. But i text her the following day asking how she was, no response. Things have gone really minimal since we last met, we still poke but that's about it. I'm trying to keep a brave outlook on things but i can't figure out what the hells happening! And it's been bringing me down all week. I put 100% into Sunday night, and there was absolutely no reason to suggest anything was badly wrong...What makes things worse is that if this dosen't work out, i don't know where else i have to turn. I don't really like any other girl, i can't think of anyone i know who i'd like to focus on if nothing happens here. And as for all this 'love can hit you when you least expect it' and 'it's always darkest before dawn' stuff, it dosen't seem to apply to me. Like i said at the start of this, the last girl i was properly involved with was in 2005. I don't want to wait another 5 years for someone to be with! It's been bottled tourture being alone for that long to be honest.I'm an honest genuine guy, i go to the gym 3 times a week, i try to be as positive as i can, i'll get along with all types of people, i'll hear people out. I know i'm not perfect nobody is, but i'm sure i'm not a bad person. And if i were just given a proper chance i could make someone very happy. If it dosen't work out with this girl i have nowhere to turn, i'll have to move and start a clean slate somewhere else in the country to have a chance! Or maybe that's just crazy talk, i honestly don't know anymore...I guess this has just been writing out my feelings, and if i'm rambling on i'm sorry guys. But i'm close to tears, what do i do? Where the hell do i go from here? :(
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reader, petina1 +, writes (3 September 2010):
 I'ts easy to talk to people on line i.e. facebook and it can lead to false relationships. The nitty gritty is that youve actually met and her impressions online and then in reality have not been real for her by the sounds of it. You sound like a very nice guy. Don't give up on finding anyone else though. Maybe you could send her a private message and ask her what she thought of you in the flesh or something. Maybe you are reading too much in to it and so it may be best just to carry on as before with the fb friendship and see if anything else comes up. Sounds like you may have expected more from it also. Just don't eat yourself up about it and carry on as before with the friendship. She's not deleted you after all so it can't have been that bad. Hope this helps
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