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female
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:Ok, So I bumped into an ex Boyfriend at a party and ended going back to his and staying the night. A couple of days later he messaged me on Facebook wanting to meet up again, he said i was gorgeous and all sorts of nice stuff. We went out for a drink, but nothing really happened. A week later I messaged him and we met again and I stayed over again. Then we didn't see each other for a fortnight coz he was working away.Then last weekend at a mutual friends Birthday, he turned up and ...well he didn't actually ignore me, we had a couple of conversations at the bar and when outside smoking but he just was hanging out with his Brother and best friend (who I didnt particularly get on with when we went out) and was really distant and wierd.Then on Thursday me and my friend had tickets to see a play the ex was in, afterwards we were having a drink and he was there chatting with us being friendly and not like he was the week before, when another woman came up and kissed him and called him her boyfrend!! She went home with her friends. Me and my friend finished our drinks and said goodbye, and he acted all disapointed that I was going.It's weird, I have known this man for over 15 years, he is not nasty or dishonest, the girlfriend could be a new thing over the past couple of weeks, but he could have said something to prevent an awkward situation. We only live five minutes walk from each other and share many mutual friends so can't avoid seeing him.Do I say something when I see Him?What do I say?or do i just leave it and act like nothing ever happened?he is a good friend and I'd miss him so much if we wern't friends but how can i be friends with a man who would do this to her and me?I hate the thought that he may have been unfaithful to her with me. I have been in relationships where men have cheated and it is horrible and I hated those women so much, I would hate to be one of them.
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reader, Starlights +, writes (25 July 2009):
 this is not your fault it happened as you didnt realise the whole truth to the situation.
but your ex was obviously using you.
you can ask him directly why he has done this to her im sure as a good friend he can give you a straightforward answer.
in future be cautious of him and his complimenting ways. if he's lied or cheated once he will do it again.
good luck
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