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*abygirl99
writes:my son's father and I have been having relations off and on for the past 7 years!!!! Durint that 7 years my son came into the world. About a year ago he decides to get a girlfriend and he has been with her off and on as well but fot the past year I guessed it's been getting serious because now she is sleeping over there every night!!! I'm a little jealous but not to the point I start confusion I have no problem with her because she don't no what's going on. Almost every week we are having sex he comes over all the time and we share our son together. My feelings are way involed in this man has me wide open . I want to stop having this affair because someone can get hurt and I just want it to be about his son which he's a great father to but hate when the woman is around but she means no harm. I have been through hell and back with my son's father and have asked him let's try and get back in a relationship for our son, he told me he would think about it but never got back to me. Then he pops up with her?How do I get this relationship to just stop? I'm at a point if I can't have you I don't want you at all !!! Please tell me what to do ??
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 March 2010): This relationship is dysfunctional. You have low selfesteem and being with this man impacts on this issue with and makes it even worse. Its self fulfilling prophecy being in this type of relationship honey. Men like this like to play at being concerned for you,girlfriend and your son when really honey there is only one thing this person cares about...yep you guessed it himself. Tell this assclown to take a hike and stop giving him something that quite honestly does not mean as much to him as it does you. In situations like this you have to protect yourself because your gonna get even more damaged. The girlfriend is not your problem and nor is he. Your his sons mother and you deserve respect, time to give yourself some. Dont let this guy use up your best years. xx Hope this helps.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 March 2010): I think you should consider therapy. You need to find out why you would pursue and accept an on again off again sexual affair for seven years. It seems to me that you suffer from low self esteem and are delusional about how your son bonds you to this man.
He is using you and hurting you. Time to have nothing to do with him except to speak about your son. Does he pay you child support? Do you share custody. Do you have a court ordered parenting plan? All of those things set up in a legal manner will help set some boundaries to the parenting that you both share for your son.
Stop having sex with him.
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