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writes:So I've been with my boyfriend for just over a year now and I must say we do have our ups and downs. He has a bit of a temper and a bit touchy and get angry a lot.There's also this guy that is totally opposite to my bf. He's sweet, kind, smart and ambitious and I like that about him but he's not attractive as my bf.We talk once in a while and each time we talk I tend to like him abit more. He's just everything that I want in a guy but I don't know if I'm attracted to him but he's crazy about me and wants me to make the right decisions when it comes to love/ guys.He's just so smart/ wise and conversations with him is so good whereas my bf is always about sex and nothing about the future and not as smart as the other guy. We argue a lot. (We haven't had sex yet) I love him and I care about him dearly but each time I talk to this guy I just wish my bf would speak to me like he does. So ambitious, caring and just a bf material but he's not that good looking. My mum thinks he's ok He's not ugly and wants me to go with him as he's a good guy. I don't know what to do. Each time I speak to him I fantasise about how life would be with him.I feel awful. I care about my bf and I don't want to hurt him. He's very sensitive. Am I a horrible person?:(
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reader, crazybeyatch  +, writes (6 November 2015):
 Your looking at things in the wrong way with you current bf. Yes, You may say he is a good looking man on the outside but ugly on the inside. Look at it this way... Outside looks go away with age...while the inner beauty will always be the same. If you feel more comfortable talking & being yourself with this other guy I would jump ship with your current man & try it out with the other man. A relationship does not last & be happy due to how "cute" you guys look together. It lasts due to how well you guys act towards eachother. If you want lifetime happiness, Id say to go with the guy that you have more of a connection with.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (28 September 2015):
 you are NOT a horrible person but you need to break up with the boyfriend who is attractive on the outside and ugly on the inside.
whether or not you go out with this other guy is not important at this point... what is important is that the current bf you have is not a nice guy and you are not happy with him and you are borderline emotionally cheating on the boyfriend who while pretty in the face is ugly in the heart.
looks are the least important issue to be worried about.
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