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writes:i'm in love with my best friend and don't know what to do because i can't tell him and i don't know if he feels the same way though whenever we're together lately it feels like something is there and our friend thinks so too. whenever he touches my hand or anywhere else accidentally i feel a spark it's so distracting when we're having a normal conversation. i can't stop thinking about him it's driving me crazy. i don't know if i want to be with him or just be friends because i know if we stay just friends he'll always be in my life and if we date theres a chance we'll break up and will never speak to each other. i don't think i can deal with not having him in my life anymore. what should i do? is there a way to find out for sure if he likes me like a certain thing all or most guys do when they like a girl? is there a way to make these feelings go away? i've already tried distancing myself for a couple of months multiple times and tried convincing myself it's just a crush but it doesn't work. i've been fighting with myself about it and was in denial for a long time but it's really not just a crush. i've only felt this strongly about someone twice in my entire life, one was a crush in high school and another was someone i dated. i just don't know what to do.
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reader, Littlescorpio  +, writes (11 April 2011):
Hi there
first I think you should take a breath! I know you must be dealing with a lot of emotions right now.
Basically this whole thing comes down to whether or not you want to take a chance. There are signs that he might like you in 'that' way but because he's your best friend it can sometimes be hard to differentiate.
I think you could either grab him and kiss him when you feel the moment is right. Or have a conversation with him about it. He's your best friend. If you two are honestly that close it shouldn't matter too much if you take the chance. If he truly cares about you he will likely say
" I'm sorry I don't feel that way about you." generally things can go back to normal after that. - this is just from my experience.
So your feelings...well this is a tough one because our emotions aren't always in our control. I don't know that they would ever go away- don't look at it as a bad thing- I have a theory that deep emotions that we feel for people stay with us forever. But there comes a stage in our lives where we can pretend it isn't there, forget about it and it doesn't affect our lives anymore.
So if you're turned down, you may feel upset at first. Eventually that feeling goes away, and it will feel like it wont for a while but it will. Trust me, I know!
This is all up to you- it's your decision. Take the chance if you want to. Maybe wait a little and see if he makes a move?
Follow your instinct! You know deep down, what is right.
Ask yourself- " Do I want to take the chance?"
If your first instinct is " Yes!" Then do it. If you want to though!
Remember, this is your decision!
Goodluck!!!!
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