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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:I'm really confused as to whats going on. I'd loved this guy for sometime, we finally got together last year, we weren't in an official relationship because neither of us knew what to say. It ended, he said he wanted someone else, however he was pretty cut up about what he did to me and hated himself. He is a pretty genuine guy. Hes always been rather shy with me and even when we became friends again he was still really shy. I'd asked him before why he doesn't treat me the same as his other mates and he said you know I'm shy, bare in mind he had a gf so I was no threat.Times gone forward, him and that girl who was long distance by the way ended, it did upset him. That was about 4 months ago and he has had an interest in other girls. Hes always been the same with me, and somethings never been right. We had a fall out and for some reason each time he brings it up and says I just wanna be mates, even when I've not mentioned things that happen between me and him, he just brings it up. What the hell, seems to be the only excuse he can use for his behavious towards me.However recently his mate started speaking to me on facebook, just saying he'd heard my name mentioned by this guy in conversation every now and then. And tried to get me out with them all. I went although nothing out the ordinary happened. However he did say he'd heard my name mentioned, so clearly this guys been talking about me to him about me. Also it got brought up in conversation about a fall out me and this guy had, in which I didn't speak to him and he made no effort to contact me (at the time of the fight he said he didn't think i'd want to hear from him). And his mate said to me he never heard the end of it... So he could moan to his mates about me but not speak to me. I don't know his mate well, I have jokingly said before to this guy why don't you take me to your mates etc. But all this seems very weird. Whats going on?
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (5 August 2012):
 Don't always listen to his friends. At the end of the day he may have mentioned your name in context so his friend may have went and spoke to you. He has said he wants friendship with you and nothing more. I know it can be hard for you to accept but my guess is that you need to.
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