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writes:Dear cupid'I will make 32 this yr in July.I have never had a guy called a boyfriend and honestly, I don look forward to getting one anymore. I have learned to enjoy my life solo and progress through my career. I am God-fearing so I spend a lot of my time on gospel music and christian videos and I am happy, thou it gets lonely sometimes. I flirt as an opportunity arises because I am actually very lively and I get along well with guys. There is this one particular guy who is very flirtatious and happens to be my acquaintance for the past three yrs we were in grad school.He calls me friend but I don feel it because he talks about so many other girls in a romantic way. Truly he makes me jelous because he is a guy who is intelligent, handsome and rich..I would definitely like him. However he is too arrogant and people just shun him. He once told people how crazy I was for him just because we joked about moving in together as housemates. When we meet in the cafeteria, he sits with me if just to give me company till I finish eating and that's it. He compliments me and looks at me admiringly but He refused to take me for ice cream! Now, yesterday I sent him a friend request on facebook. He accepted. Then he sent me messages i) Are you hitting on me? Then 2 minutes later, ii) because if you are, you had better be clear! My question is, what is this guy upto? I am concerned because I fear to even have a crush on him because I know he will probably make up more stories to tell his friends. Please advise on my friendship with this guy.Thanks.
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reader, westernb  +, writes (18 February 2012):
"We are all fools when in love" - Charlotte in Pride and Prejudice
That says a lot! If you don't take a chance you might never know. Just try to talk to him and show your interest. You'll know for sure where he stands with you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 February 2012): Hi Ayan,
thanks for such a caring reply. Admittedly, u are right that I am in love with this guy. And, true, I fear accepting it because of the greater possibility of rejection. I keep wondering if apart from the flirting, there is a slight possibility he likes me since I feel he is everyone's friend.I am not sure how to manifest my love without appearing silly to this guy.
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reader, Ayan Ganguly  +, writes (10 February 2012):
 I find you very self contradictory dear,you have made up your mind that you would be solo all your life..that's rigidity of the mind and at the same time you proclaim that you are lively...Rigidity and liveliness don't co-exist.
"He calls me friend but I don feel it because he talks about so many other girls in a romantic way",How is friendship and being romantic about someone else related??
Let me be very frank with you..i feel..you are in love with this guy..you are actually hitting on him.. but i don't know what is stopping you from accepting it.
There is nothing wrong in being god fearing and being in love at the same time...love is a manifestation of god...every body is not blessed to fall in love...i guess you are..accept it and enjoy it...you don't need to know what he is upto...you would be doing better if you think how to profess your feelings..you are worrying too much.. hope it helps
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