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writes:im confused? a few months ago I was having funny broody feelings you know the feelings a women gets when ever she sees a baby.my boyfriend picked up on this and made it clear that he does not want a child. but last week when we were out shopping, he started dropping hints like,oh i thought you were going into the mother care store? and laughed, but an hour later he asked me shall we have a kid next year? i was shocked? i said no im not ready.he looked abit disapointed? this guy keeps on giving me mixed messages.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 January 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks for the really good reply :-)
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 December 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni would like to thank you all for such excellent advice!
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 December 2008): Just talk to him!!
If youre both serious about having a child together you should be both mature enough to sit down and talk about. No point in guessing what he feels.
Go for it.. you might be happily surprised!x
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reader, Abrasive_Reality  +, writes (30 December 2008):
Sounds like a pretty sticky situation, In my opinion, guys don't know what they want. So, maybe his initial reaction wasn't something you wanted and he sensed that, so to make the situation easier he felt that maybe he should break the ice by trying to make you happy. I think men do their best to make women happy, but women are so all over the place that a guy sometimes doesn't fully get how to make their women happy. So, initially he probably thought you wanted a baby, and it could have shocked him so as a result he maybe was looking for more of a direct answer so he wasn't having to guess what you may have truly meant. Whatever it may be, I think that sometimes both men and women don't fully get each other and it takes both minds to communicate before one can fully understand. Maybe it would be easier if you just asked him, those conversations are definitely awkward, but those are questions that show true colors of a relationship. If you get through it, you'll benefit from it, and only be stronger. Communication is key.... no one can read anyone's mind, and if they can then by golly I want to meet that person immediately. Hope I was of some help, good luck!
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