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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:Dear-cupid,From 2-3 days one guy is messaging me. I don't know who that guy is.When I asked him, he said that he came to my city for studies 6 months back ,he saw me and fell for me. I'm 16 years old. He is 17. He got my number from one of his friend who live in my city. We are from same country. How can you fall for someone without knowing that person? He is texting me from 2-3 days. He is madly in love with me. I don't know who he is. I haven't seen him in real. I want to say yes to him but I have lots of problem in my life.I had my first break-up 9 months ago. My ex-boyfriend was 27 years old. It was just a online realtionship. We used to talk on phone and chat. But he suddenly started ignoring me and my first relation ended badly. He was just using me for sex. ( We didn't did it in real. We did phone sex) After some months, I fell for my chat-friend. When I told him about my feelings. He said he is a player. And he can just have sexual relation with me. We do sex-chat.I always feel depressed, alone, unloved and boys always use me. When this 17 year old guy told me that he fell for me when he saw me at first time, it just made me happy. I want to feel loved and I want true love. I don't want a boy that is just looking for my body. He said that he will marry me when we complete our studies.I told my mom about this guy.My mom trusts me a lot. She don't know anything about my past. She told him not to call me again.It really made me sad. I want to date that guy. And it will be in real not online relation. He is just 1 year older than me. My mom said that she doesn't have problem with this relation but she cares for me and she want me to concentrate on my studies. Even If she agrees for this relation. My other family member will not accept this relation because I'm from India and inter cast marriage is not allowed in our family. I didn't told my mom that I want to date that guy, I lied to her that I don't care for him. In our society, his caste is considered too low and people don't want to get into relation with lower caste. I really want to meet that guy. He will come here for studies again next month. But I don't want to hurt my parents. That's why I told that guy to remain friends. My mom told him to stay away from me :"( He didn't message me today. Will he really go away from me? Should I message him? Should I say yes to him? Please help me... I'm confused :"(
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reader, VSAddict  +, writes (20 July 2011):
 First, he can't be in love with you if he hasn't gotten to know you. Maybe he really likes your looks and took it as love, even though it's only infatuation. The decision to give this guy a chance is up to you. But don't get too serious too fast. Get to know him first and then make your decision. If you like him, then you like him. Don't decide to not see him just because of his status.
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