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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:My questions to do with a relationship but not love, it's a friendship question.Well i have these mates and one in particular was really close with me like we were good mates but all of a sudden she has changed always being mean and really hates me, when i talk to my other mates she gets really angry and make ugly nasty evil looks and then interupts and starts talking herself and smiles all happy again. and she keeps throwing sly comments at me and most of the time it hurts me, in maths me and my mates were talking and she just stayed quiet she was doing this to seek tension so then everyone will stop talking, ask her why she is so quiet and what's wrong and that's exactly what happen. She does that alot, or me and my mates were trying to guess each others school password and we had guessed two of my mates and it was my turn and i was giving clues and then one of my mates goes is it i love (the maths teachers name) i start laughing cause i never found it offensive i knew it was a joke, but then my other mate (the one who hates me now) goes if your plae green your jelous of something or someone and she was saying it to my other mate and i go to her your pale so you must be jelous and then she had like an angry look and then she goes of what i go, of the maths teacher and everyone else laughed but she went really angry and made a terrible face (which she from then on carried on to make in front of me and be mean to me) and she start going on about how it hurt her feelings etc.. and then on email she said i hurt her feelings and i told her what about the times she hurt my feelings by saying really mean things a person would not say to anyone not even a close mate. Then she never replied to my email. But at the moment it seems she is taking all my friends away from me bcuz i was really upset cause she keeps getting on my nerves and in art my mate asked what's wrong i told her and she was shocked bcuz one minutes she all happy she see's me and gets all mean and then back to normal with everyone else, but now the mate i told is getting pulled away from me, she keeps sucking up to the mate that is man to me i think she been backbiting and saying i have said mean things about ppl, now a days i get left out alot and i have felt this feeling before and dealed it with for 2 years but i can't anymore i have to do something in order for my mate not to make my life living hell. Please help what should i do, also i don't want to break up with her bcuz then everyone will take her side and i will have no friends, everyone thinks she is nice when she is not at all, teythink that bcuz of her squeaky voice, and the way she looks. Any advice would be nice Reply to this Question
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reader, :):):) +, writes (16 May 2008):
Your 'friend' may be jealous of you and be turning other friends against you to make her feel better about herself.
She knows how much her comments make you angry and that you will retaliate, making her look like the 'victim'.
The next time she says something, dont argue back, completely ignore her, if she carries on, say something calmly like 'dont be childish' or even laugh along, She will probably be confused and embarrassed and stop her behaviour towards you.
Good luck xxx
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