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writes:help! did I screw up my third date? I like this guy, I think, he seems nice and we have a lot in common, and we went out three times (first time coffee, second time expo and chat in a bar, third time chat in a bar and movie) and he always did the asking out and the first step, and he seems nice, but.. on the second date he said: "next time we are going to meet in the place that you like" and I was slightly bothered that he assumed that we will meet again without actually asking me, and this time he did it again when he was leaving, and I made a crack along the line:"you are really sure of yourself, you always assume that there will be a next time" (Doh). The thing is, I suspect this guy is really not that self-assured, and that I ll never see him again.. what shall I do? Did I just destroy his fragile male ego, just because I feared some kind of imposition? thank you for any suggestions Reply to this Question
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reader, GeeGee255  +, writes (12 March 2011):
 I don't think he was assuming, he was just hoping there would be a next time and was afraid to ask.
So he tried to play it off by talking about the next date, without having to come out right out and ask you if you would like to see him again.
So if a week or more goes by and he doesn't call you for another date and you really do want to see him again, you might have to be the one to do the asking for the next date.
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