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writes:Hi,My boyfriend and myself just got back toghether. I found out information about him going out on a date the following weekend with someone else. Why couldn't he just tell me he went with this new person to dinner?This really bothers me and I did ask him about it andhe told me she was just a friend. Well, I don't reallybeleive this story. This is many times I have had thisproblem with him over the past 12 years. We just married and now I find out this is still going on.I think I should find out about getting the marriageannuled since it was all in the same week. What shouldI do now?Thanks,Nikki625 Reply to this Question
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reader, eddie85 +, writes (16 April 2011):
 I think the question you need to ask yourself is why did you get married to a guy who has repeatedly done this to you for the past 12 years? Did you think marriage was going to change him?
I think you need to have a sit down talk with him and figure out if he is as committed to you as you think. From the sounds of it, he isn't. And from the way you are asking here, it sounds like you already have one foot out the door as well.
Marriage doesn't usually solve anything and by most accounts it can create a bunch of other problems, especially if the communication, honesty and trust isn't there.
Personally, I think your husband / boyfriend disrespected you by not being upfront with his activities. If it was truly a date, than I think you are kidding yourself about his sincerity towards you and if it was just a "go out with a friend kind of date" than he should've informed you of that fact before he went out (and offered to take you with him) -- so there'd be no misunderstandings and no lack of respect towards you.
Only you can decide if an annulment is in order. I think by sitting down with your husband and making sure he is committed to you -- and only you from here on out, will determine what your course of action should be.
Best wishes
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