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writes:I have been in this relationship for 2months and things have been going well in the beginning but as time went on everything changed, he doesnt tell me if he is going home or what, he didnt even tell me dat he went to go fetch his child, he doesn't even call again and i don't know what to do anymore. Can you please help because i love him very much and i don't wana loose him. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 July 2008): Sometimes guys withdraw for their own reasons... Could be that he has already got you, or he not sure what he wants or simply coz he needs some space. BUT the best advice I can give you is NOT TO CHASE HIM. Don't be upset by him not telling you where he is. Simply fill your time with something else, work or sport or whatever you do. Turn the tables, let him wonder why you don't tell him what you're up to. If you chase him and question him, he will only withdraw further. Don't let him think you are the one that needs him more. Good luck. Hang in there.
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reader, ChiRaven  +, writes (28 July 2008):
 Are the two of you living together? If not, you should remember that you're his relationship partner, not his supervisor, and he doesn't really have to account to you for all of his time.
If you are living together, you need to tell him that it would be courteous of him to let you know when he's not going to be home so that you won't worry about him.
Either way, don't make him feel like you are smothering him. There are few things more likely to kill a relationship than one partner constantly acting possessive and making the other feel like they are under suspicion. Even if you have reason to be suspicious, acting suspicious isn't going to gain you anything, and if there is no reason to be suspicious then acting that way could very well cost you the relationship.
Back off, lighten up, live and let live, accept your partner for who he is, and you'll be a happier person for it.
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reader, StudentOfLife  +, writes (28 July 2008):
 Guys sometimes loose interest when they feel they achieved what they want. Some like to be challenged, work for what they want.
Maybe he knows that he won your heart and feel as if he's there an doesn't have any challenge anymore.
If Id be him, the best way to counter such thing for a girl would be to do the same thing to me. Then Id be like "Hey babe, why didn't you tell me you went to the movies, maybe I would have liked it too ya know?" and you could be like "Well I tried to call you last week about it but you weren't there and you didn't call me back. Besides, there's someplace you go that I would like to go with you but you don't call me to ask me."
There's a little motto that goes like this "Don't do to others what you don't want others to do to you."
Sometime, we do things and we don't realize what we do wrong. We call those "Blind spot".
I think that if you'd do something like that he would see his blind spot. It will be up to him to fix it or not though
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