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male
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41-50,
anonymous
writes:I tried to make it clear what happen but it becomes quite long. Thank you for reading it.I am mid 20 and she is early 30. We started our relationship after we chat online for 2 years. Things are great at first and since we live quite far, we meet once every 2 to 3 weeks. Other time, we spent hours online chatting.We have several huge fights and now we rarely meet each other. She shows lack of interest in me and when I express my concern, trying to fix things if any, she get furious.To promote communication, I tried a lot of things, all not working but recently, I introduced her an online game. She is obsessed with it and instead of promoting communication, she barely talks to me.She has lots of things to say to those online gamers in a flirty way. When I want to play with her in the same room, she said no, so we won't lose double. And she said, I can't be in the room to watch her play.Today, she has some problem in the game, I offered to help, as usual, she refused but I know she want. I asked her permission that I use her account and mine at the same time so that I can give her stuff. Yeah, she want me to do so that when she login again, everything is ready to go.She says ok, so I login. Today, I don't know she left it purposely or what, part of her private message left open and when I login it popup.I took a glance. It seems the earlier part of the conversation was deleted. The rest of it, it appears they exchanged numbers and she is going to give him a call. Oh, he can be there to watch her play, giving advices. And, now she is not calling me for weeks.Since there is timestamp, I found out those are the time I wait for her reply in instant messenger. It is hours of waiting.Usually she online for 6 hours, I have to wait 30 mins to 1 hour and a half for her single reply.Instant messenger, because she refused to add me as her friends in the online game. She say until she register another ID which never happen till today.It is getting worst, when she quit the game and going offline in instant messenger, she never tell me, until I found out myself. It happened again today, few minutes she offline, I called her but never pick up.I asked her before, she said she doesn't realise the instant messenger get disconnected. Sometimes she uses meebo, I know meebo will auto connect if it get dc. So that is a bad lie. I didn't say that to her, so that she get a nice stage.Am I over reacting about the other guy because they just know each other for few weeks. But am thinking, few weeks of online stranger to exchange numbers. That's fast because it is a gaming community not dating.And why she goes offline that way? When I say bye or good night, she will replied ok or nothing at all. In our early days, if she get dc, she will come back online just to say bye.Whenever I asked, she said I get jealous every time she talks to other guy. She talks in a flirty way that's why I don't like it.Advices please. Thanks again.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 December 2008): Thanks teacake.
I just called her earlier. She picked up after few calls. I wanted to talk to clear things up but the moment she picked up, she said is busy shopping.
Personally, when I buy stuff, a phone call definitely will not disturb me especially the one calling is family or her.
I would like to know how girls think.
Anyway, I don't think talk is needed when her action shows things clear.
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reader, Teacake +, writes (2 December 2008):
 If she is hooked on on-line relationships something is wrong with her. She is obviously trying to make you jealous, but it also seems she lost interest in you because things became real in the real world. She sounds like a manipulator who cant deal with the real world.
Best to cut your losses at this point and leave her alone. This too is part of her game.
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