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writes:I'm so confused right now. I don't know if they're friends or not. After I joined like, a zillion clubs,these two girls come and I genuinely liked them, and we start being all buddy buddy. They liked the same stuff that I do and I was impressed since no one else cared about it. Then they started to ignore me. I was okay with it since we only met last year but turning to friends last week. At the election when I won student council president they were all,"I know her she's my best friend!"Lots of people would crowd around them saying what I like and stuff since I wouldn't say anything. And we started talking again. That was a big mistake. Then they ignored me after that. At the pep rally when they called up my name for V, they were all hugging and pointing at me saying,"Look it's my best friend!" I was so annoyed because I don't really know them that well. I really think they're just using me for "access" to special privileges since I'm the only one they know. The problem is I don't know how to get them off my back. I tell them to leave me alone because I don't like them using me for "popularity" but they still don't get the clue. Any advice because this is really getting on my nerves now :/ ?
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (24 September 2012):
 Eh don't waste your energy on them. Take the high road and kill them with kindness ( you know that expression, right?) People WILL know who your real friends are who aren't. And so will you.
I agree with Ciar.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (24 September 2012):
 Next time they come to cling on you walk away. That's the best advice I can give you on this. They wont take a hint, so the only thing left to do is to take action. Or of they say "she's my best friend" then speak up and say "we're not friends, I barely know you".
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 September 2012): I agree with ciar, but can understand how annoying that must feel. These girls use your achievements to make their selfs shine, I would be inclined if people asked if they were friends to reply 'yes just casual ' and 'I'm sure their nice girls'..
Don't let them get to you, just smile sweetly at them and walk on don't give them your time otherthan a polite hello, and don't spend your time fretting about them.. Concentrate on the people who do matter, and the achievements that YOU have achieved.
Way to go, sweetie, you have done extremely well..
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reader, Ciar  +, writes (24 September 2012):
 Instead of trying to stop them from capitalizing on their acquaintance (which has already failed), why not use it to your advantage?
They may not be strategically important on their own, but they are part of your fan base. And as long as they can benefit from knowing you, they may be inclined to help you out now and then too. They don't seem to be hurting you and they may be more hassle if negatively provoked. Why burn bridges unnecessarily?
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