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writes: There is this women I like. She's a friend of one of my co-workers, and well, we have gotten off to a good start, and usually I'm very comfortable around people and can carry a conversation with a man or woman, but around her I get nervous and it seems like I just cringe up around her.I know she likes me, I don't know how much, but something is there. The only thing is, I wanna kiss her. I haven't done that yet. It seems when I try to find the moment it gets screwed up. Also I want to be able to carry a conversation with her. It's like someone's always around talking some bull, or shes gotta go. Just something always to screw up a moment. I mean, I don't know why I feel like this, but is there a special way to find a moment to get a kiss in?
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reader, Virginiaac +, writes (26 December 2005):
DON'T kiss her until you go on the date. Tell her firstly you are a bit tongue-tied, then ask her out. One thing at a time.
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reader, happytochat  +, writes (26 December 2005):
Hey there,
When people like someone, more then just a friend, as a potential bf/gf, we tend to feel like you are right now, its perfectly nomral, everyone has those feelings- men, woman, kids, teeangers, young adults, mid age people and older people. The good news is that many people get through it! So you can too!
Since you are generally good at talking with other people, means that you must have some self confidence, yet when it comes to this woman, who you have romantic feelings for, you must judge yourself quite harshly. Do you find yourself thinking very negative? Telling yourself bad thoguhts? Positive thinking is vital, tell yourself calming and good thoughts, whether you believe in them or not, they will help you get thorugh it.
Ok so you said you want ot kiss her, well I think perhaps asking her out first would be better. That way, you can ask her out and be on a date and its more expected to kiss, rather then just randomly do it. Thats just how I see it.
As for finding a time to ask her out (or just kiss her) maybe just say something to her like "Hey can I have a moment with you" Or "I need to talk to you", something that basicly shows that you want it to be just her and you. I'm sure if she knows there is something you need to say/do that she won't just run off because she has thigns to do. I suggest making a time and place to meet up, so you have all her attention and nothign can interupt and go somewhere you both don't know anyone, so they cant come along and start chatting.
As for dealing with those unwanted feelings or nerves, its pretty hard to get rid of them 100%, but try positive thinking is the best thing you can do I think. Perhaps you just have to accept that asking this woman out, is going to make you feel a bit uncomfortable, but thats ok, because you WILL get through it and things will work out for you. Remmeber the ultimate goal.
Hope I have helped :) good luck and remember tell yourself good thoughts! I'm sure you will be fine.
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