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writes:I just got out of a horrible relationship of five years. the guys was a dick and never really did anything special for me ..I'm starting to believe that there are no romantic guys out there, or guys that like literature, and stuff i like.. the guy i dated was opposite and that was a ride in hell..is there such a thing as someone who is passionate and loving? i mean all the guys i find are taken.all the ones i connect with are taken.. this is discouraging.. everyone i know tells me i am a pretty girl but whats the use, i feel so lonely Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 December 2010): Dont be upset, okay. Theres a some one for everyone i promise you that. Dont be upset over anything, be the happy outgoing women you know you are :)
Xoxo Dont lose hope
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reader, alexia846 +, writes (17 December 2010):
alexia846 is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni hope so...
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 December 2010): Your romance is out there. Dont give up hope. :)
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reader, alexia846 +, writes (16 December 2010):
alexia846 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionand what i mean by romantic is it gonna be better than my five yr relationship.. i only got flowers once, and he always criticized me.. even with sex he would not go down on me! he even said once oh you've gotten overweight i dont want to have sex with you ..MIND YOU I WAS ONLY 120 and am 5'3,
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reader, alexia846 +, writes (16 December 2010):
alexia846 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionguys what i mean by romantic is that like is there a guy that will appreciate me i just got out of a relationship where if i didnt wear makeup of exersice he would complain.. but yet he would say i love you.. is there a guy who wil think i am good enough, love me unconditionally.. I mean ppl say i am very attractive, but all i have gotten is conditional love, i feel like i always have to look good in order to be accepted by men. he never made me feel that special maybe in the beggining a little bit but it was always trying to change me to better me.. instead of easing my insecurities he made them 354534543 times worse.. is there a guy that will enjoy doing things with me, going out with me and enjoying the little things in life.. i never ask for much.. i just feel discourage. FOR example i met this classmate and we began talking and he seemed to understand my lonilliness, you know those ppl that look at you in the eye and really listen... i was amazed! i mean he made me feel special just by listening, and paying attention to me, and we seem to have a lot of things in common, but he has a gf.. it seems that the nice ones the ones with personality have gf..
thank you all for you help and advice appreciate it
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (15 December 2010):
 Romantic stuff is not all it's cracked up to be. I mean, it's nice, it's the icing on the cake - but it's not a sure sign of compatibility or committment or strong feelings ar anything.
My ex, after the first time that - ahem, insert pic of Aunt demurely fluttering her eyelashes - we spent the night together, sent me roses the day after, with a note saying "Thank you for the most magic night in my life "
Well, by then I was already a jaded, been- there -done -that slick Aunt, right ? Wrong. I was bowled over by that gesture, and it made me open the door to...maybe not a ride in hell, but a very tumultuous and uncomfortable one.
Moral : romance and chick -lit are good - as a hobby or passtime. In a mate, look for real, good, solid, "boring " stuff : maturity, reliability, respect, an even temper, politeness. The guy who loves you more is not necessarily the one who is the best at playing Prince Charming.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 December 2010): Sorry to hear about your breakup. There are men out there def who do special things for girls, Id like to consider myself one. I often do them unconditionally i e I'll buy a girl a necklace or bracelet out of nowhere and just do it cause i feel like giving her something. She doesnt have to sleep with me or take me out or anything. Men raised by single moms tend to be a little more soft hearted and gentle with women thus kind and passionate (Id like to consider myself as well very passionate behind closed doors and curtains)... then again im really nothin fairly to be considered by any american woman since Im a half breed anyway lol. Stay positive and keep hope alive ;)
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 December 2010): Yes, yes, yes and yes! Being in a romantic and passionate relationship is not always just going to say "Hey im that kind of thing!" It will happen so i think on its own.
You just got out of a horrible relationship of 5 years, but you are lonely. Actually, if i ever had one horrible relationship, pfft id be celebrating. Your out of it, but if you want to look again so soon or however long its been just know that those kinds of men your looking for wont exactly pop out for you.
lol Thatd be great right. Having a sign over their head saying "Oh oh Me!" I have mine, Go find yours :)
For a guy in my opinion, i believe that if he truely loves you, you'd be surprized with a dozen roses or a night made special after a long hard day. I dont personally know, but it is what goes through my head. Those kinds of guys are out there.
Xoxo Good luck :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 December 2010): There are romantic guys out there. Yes there are guys that like literature, that are passionate and loving, but you know you shouldn't worry about the romantic thing, I waited until we have been married 21 years before he sent me flowers on our anniversary, he doesn't really do romance, it used to bother me, having spent some time on dc, I can see that in the scheme of things it doesn't matter, give me a loving passionate man any day.
Don't loose heart, I know it can be lonely, you never know what corner you will turn and meet someone, enjoy being on your own for now, be nice to yourself.
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