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writes:I am in a relationship with this woman for over 2 years but the past few months she has been an emotional wreck she lost a loved one and her job nothing really worked out her..because of which I have been subjected to verbal abuse like "asshole" "idiot" "stupid" "you are trash you are garbage" "your a clown"All sorts of abuse,I love her but she is a wreck she cries her self to sleep and told me that she needs a break because of what she is putting me thru!i love her too much..what do I do to make her feel better?this is the love of my life we are talking about here:(
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 May 2015): I agree with CindyCares. Love yourself and never put up with abuse like that. I understand that she's going through a difficult time, probably suffering severe depression from her loss, but life is full of loss and despair. It doesn't give someone a free ticket to mistreat others. She has no right to say such awful things to you or to treat you so badly. Clearly, she's taking her angst out on you.She needs to to get some help ASAP. I suggest that you tell her that you will no longer tolerate the abusive name-calling. Period. She must show you respect or you're out the door.And, you should tell her that she must get some professional help or that you will no longer remain in the relationship.If things don't change now, they never will. If you remain with her and let this behavior continue, then you're committing yourself to a lifetime of abuse. And each time she does it and you let her get by with it, she's losing more respect for you.I'm so sorry. This must be extremely painful for you.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (25 May 2015):
 " But I love her / him " must be the most used and abused words by which people tries to justify and explaon away all kinds of disrespect , mistreatments and cruelty.
Ok you " love " her, and what about loving yourself a little too ? Just enough to not condone being subjected to CONSTANT insuts and verbal abuse ?... The once off " bad " word during a heated discussion, well Ok, it's not nice but we all are human and may exceptionally act weird under pressure.
But, 2 years of verbal abuse and you haven't got sick and tired already, in the name of " love " ? Then it's not love- it's emotional addiction.
There's NO " because of which " - newsflash for your gf: life is tough- VERY tough at times. That gives nobody a free pass to go around constantly hurling insults at people . Otherwise , imagine what ,say, cancer patients, or mothers of disabled children, or anybody in a longlasting / perfament painful situation- what would they do all the time, you could not even go near them , because they'd be ranting and raving all the time.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (25 May 2015):
 Let her go. No MATTER how much you love her you can't fix what's going on with her. It's NOT you, it IS her.
She has spend the last two year abusing you instead of dealing with her issues. Maybe she is now ready to deal with them, but NEED to do it on her own. So, let her go.
You are not helping her by holding on to her "in the name of love", you are ENABLING this abusive cycle to continue.
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