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writes:fHello everyone, as it been about 4 years since I have not been on this site. If I had any followers who had been watching my question of help, I had left my ex with a mutual breakup. we are now friends with no regrets. I remain to be single to discover things about myself and did date a few guys since then. I cannot tell you where I can start about how my life feels how greatful to be the person I am today. I had learned from my past relationship to help me know when I see a red flag when I meet someone in my present moments. This is my way to protect my heart. Up till now I must explain a situation that I am requesting for a huge advice. I mean I can go around to ask my friends the same advice but they know me well and just might tell me only what I want to hear, don't let me forget to tell you that I have friends that are a huge listeners but very open and blunt to points and I am greatful to have them in my life. (Muah??). My purpose to coming here is to get advice from people from all across of distance. Here my situation. Last year in September, I was house sitting for a friend for a weekend. I decided to go Walmart close to my home and just happen to run into a old friend I met 13 years ago, he was with his girlfriend at the moment. Sure we all remembered each other well. I had given my number to the girlfriend and told them to buzz me whenever they want. Off I go back to my shopping and here I am thinking to myself that my friend James is sure going to chase me down but that was my guess. I told myself "whatever" lol. Few days later I get a text message with an invitation to talk. I was at work when I received this text. I thought myself, should I or should I not, I even thought about my pros and cons. Conclusion comes to me what the worst thing can happen? Right !! So I took the offer to see for myself and see what the universe may have set for me. We talked and giggles through memories about when we first met. Caught up on our life what we missed out. Keep in mind this is a group conversation with him and his gf. As we were talking I was reading his energy and gave a reading while his gf was there. I just basically said that " there is this man who is standing alone who is trying to find a away out is only lost because he doesn't know who he is himself, so he stand in dark place waiting for someone to light the lamp. Your happiness is not here" I just left it like that. The conversation continue well and went home. That night I thought myself WOW he really let himself go from the time I first met him and starting thinking what it would like if I was the one who can bring happiness to him and kept vision from there. I woke up the next day to a long text message stating that James broke up with his gf cuz this time he wasn't going to let me go as he did before. Let me tell you this that I had given him two separate times to date me but he continued to be with his gf at thise times and I respected that. I knew he wasn't happy with her but I still gave my respect and moved forward. Ok let get back on track, the text message also stated that he want to have a place to stay so he start a new life. I took a long thinking moment and thought this is not a good idea but as a friend I said he could stay with me till he could get on his feet m, so that the plan. During the time he moved in with me and yes we shared the same bed. I only hoped that things would not go any furthered as friend who is helping a friend in need. Little by little I help him focus on his health, education although I sent home to school under the education he feels fit and help to pay his tuition. He graduated successfully and I even got him placed in my facilty I work at. In the mean time I had develop feeling for Him and didn't want to at all. We started sleeping together and treated each other like boyfriends without the title. The plot kicks in, I learned that he chooses his words wisely as he is walking on thin ice afraid it might crack. White lies here and there but praise for my love. It something I would scratch my head and wonder "WHY". Putting myself to check, one we are not together, two I don't give him any reason to lie, 3 I have been very open and 100 honest that sometime I get myself in trouble. So I load my self question to ask him. I learned he still carried himself with white lies and still choose what he says around me carefully. So I continue to move forward and feeling still growing on him while I didn't want to be. This has been going on and I had talked to him about that if you can't be honest with yourself then how you going to be honest with orhers and I also apply the same quote with love since he doesn't love himself. He says he will tried to better himself to that. So now it been a year and love grew strong and we are still sleeping together, white lies still float around nothing changed about him but now he really madly in love with me. The plot thickens, I met a guy online, meet and greet had pass. I have spent time with this new guy. I learned that he is very positive thinker, high motivation rather being home bored with tv remote in his hand. I also learned that he is very honest like me. In mean time I had develop feelings I mean strong feelings but didn't tell him any about but only told him I liked him and that just that . In the process he told me about how I make him feel good and what he likes about me and many things. I must say that it made me feel good. My Delimma to the question, what advice would you give for someone like me who may possibly fall in love with both men.. How can I choose?
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reader, babetaz20 +, writes (2 November 2015):
babetaz20 is verified as being by the original poster of the question There isn't any one else .. I turn to an online cuz I wasn't getting a honesty from the person I really want to be with
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 November 2015): Why are you on-line when you are apparently with someone else you say you feel for and may fall in love with? How many others are there I wonder.....
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reader, Denizen  +, writes (2 November 2015):
 Choose the lighter happiness.
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