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*mma89
writes:Somebody help me, i recently went to marmaris in july 2007 i met this turkish guy who worked at the hotel where i was staying, i noticed he was staring at me all the time because i am blonde and i know the turks love blondes but then we got chatting and he seemed really nice and after a couple of nights after getting on really well one thing led to another and the same thing happened every night after that until i went home to the UK, i then returned again in August/September 2007 to see him again we switched numbers and email/home addresses so we could keep in touch, we got on really well he paid for hotels he took me out for meals but he keeps telling me he loves me i really like him, since i have been back home he has text or rang me everynight saying he loves me and misses me and wants me to go back, i am going back to see him in October 2007 before all the winter flights stop to Dalaman, he says he has me an engagment ring for when i go over to see him in October i really like this guy and i believe he really likes me he has never been off the phone since i returned to the UK. I really dont know what to do.Please help, my family dont approve they think hes just doing it for a ticket to the UK and my friends think its stupid but he told me if i wanted to move to turkey with him that would be great but if i didnt then he would leave his family behind and move to the UK just so he could be with me. I dont know if he is just doing this to get to the UK as he is talking about trying for a baby and marriage already.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 September 2007): Hi,
I have met a lot of Turkish people in their own country. I have also lived in the Netherlands. It has been my experience that certain unprogressive Turkish people, coming from the poorer part of the country and having less education, can be extremely aggressive and manipulative, AND are not to be Trusted. BE VERY CAREFUL. My apologies to the larger part of the Turkish people, but I believe they would support this response as tehy probably know who I am refering to.
He is moving WAY too fast. If it sounds too good to be true, it is.
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reader, Basschick  +, writes (26 September 2007):
 Don't let him talk you into moving things too fast. You barely know this guy. How could he possibly "love" you already? I'd be very suspicious. You can remain in contact with him if you want but keep this relationship at arms distance for several more months. Then after 6-8 months if he's still "mad" about you, maybe he could come to the UK on a work visa so your friends and family could meet him and form better opinions about him. Then you'd be living in the same city and able to determine what he's really all about. It would also give you a chance to spot any potential dangers before you get swept away. My concern is he's moving awfully fast, already talking babies and marriage and about you moving to turkey. How many women have been abducted by strangers they thought they could trust? Think about things very carefully. You know very little about this man so don't let his flattery blind-side you to logic. Be safe.
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