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anonymous
writes:hey im friends with this teacher and we have alot of fun joking with eachother, im his ex student. I'm pretty close to him and we consider eachother as friends however this girl he talks to also has strted making stuff up about him flirting and being suggestive with her which is a total lie. Im really annoyed at the girl because she really fancies him and the things shes saying is totally wishfull thinking and non of its true but it could get him into truble if someone took her seriusly. hes found out and hes been really distant n wierd with me and i hate it it upsets me because i used to find him so easy to talk to and its all because of this girl. How can i get him to return to how he was before?
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 December 2010): hi anonymous agony aunt. I think your advice was rather harsh and you do not know the whole story so I shall tell you it now. My parents know I talk to him and talk to him themselves and we are FRIENDS that is it I have no interest in being in a relationship with him. I am annoyed at this girl because she could get my friend in trouble and he has done nothing wrong he has shown me the emails hes sent her and they are all polite small talk nothing at all raunchy or suggestive. This girl already has a reputation as a liar as she loves attention and she had a HUGE crush on this teacher whilst at school. If someone was causing unnecessary grief for one of your friends wouldnt you be angry as well? I just hate that he seems to think I may betray him and beguin rumors about him too or that hes too upset to talk to me and im wondering as a friend what i should do. So not to be harssh but this is what I needed advice on not in your opinion who I should and shouldnt be able to talk to.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 December 2010): You sound jealous and this "teacher" of yours sounds like a creep. This girl probably isn't making anything up and he's probably being distant because she's his new "buddy" now. This guy shouldn't be working around teenage girls apparently. He's sliming up to the kids he's suppose to be educating. My advice, forget him, forget her and believe me, when you're older you'll see that he's just a pervert in a position of authority taking advantage of the children he's in control over. Try not to entertain hopes of ever running away together. When/If theres nothing stopping you from trying to have a relationship with him you still shouldn't. Unless he changes professions, he'll just get a new girl every year and you know it. She's not the one whos doing anything wrong here. She his next victim. He has simply moved on to his next object of desire. He is just sick. Don't take it personally, it wasn't meant to be. But he should be in jail or at least work strickly with the elderly or something. Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 December 2010): hey who, thanks for the advise :) i know this girl or what shes doing isnt any of my business bt its her hus affecting my friendship with my ex teacher and obviusly also as a friend i worry about him
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reader, Who  +, writes (24 December 2010):
 "How can i get him to return to how he was before?"
Maybe you can't. If you want to try you can tell him you have noticed him begin distant and ask him why. You can telling him you value his friendship and would like things to go back to how they were before. You should not repeat not mention the wishful thinking girl unless he brings it up. Do not say anything that could be miss-understood as you wanting more than friendship.
As far as the wishful thinking girl goes, that is not you problem. You can be really annoyed with her but it is still none of your business. It is quite common for teenage girls have a crush on their teacher, and /or to think he likes them back. A search on this site will give you dozens of examples. Most girls grow out of it and become interested in boys their own age. Hopefully this happen to the wishful thinking girl.
Good luck and hope this helps.
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