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writes:I get on the school bus everyday and I usually have a high ponytail. The boys on the bus have started to call me Jet Li, and make weird martial arts noises whenever I walk on and off the bus. They are very popular and I myself am just an average kid. This is extremely embarrassing in front of all my friends and everyone else. Whenever I say anything to defend myself they just do it louder and if I ignore them it's the same and I always feel bad for not standing up for myself. This hurts me because my friends bring it up in discussion and I feel humiliated. I don't even do my hair like that anymore but that doesn’t stop them. Are there any lines I could say to shoot back at them next time they do it???
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 May 2009): This is the original poster
i have tried ignoring for a long time with a poker face but that just seems to give them the impression they can walk all over me.
the other day i was sort of thinking about all the advice you have all given me and out of nowhere i sort of went "well i'll take that as a compliment as jet li is the Godfather of Martial arts. But if I'M jet li, what does that make you guys? Let me think (I pointed to each one in turn) Tinky winky, dipsy, la-la, po!" and then walked off.
slightly lame but i felt confident. It hasn't stopped them but it certainly did cause a stir amongst their friends who i've noticed, lay off me now. But not those three boys. not yet anyway. i hope i am able to keep confident .
thank you for your advice.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 May 2009): Laugh, and pretend you're finding their comments funny. They'll soon stop doing it, because they'll realise that they're wasting their time.
Perhaps you are more popular than you think, to have so much of their energy focused upon you? Teasing is often a way for them to mask their true feelings, which could be that you are a nice person and they wish they were more like you.
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reader, GrimmReality  +, writes (7 May 2009):
 well since ignoring them is not working out....try this.
"Tis always better to be quiet and be thought a fool, than to open your mouth and remove all doubt".
Of course, their mouths will be agape with shock, and they will either shut their pie-holes, or they wont.
As much as people think that this is a phase with younger people, bullying is unacceptable. And when turning the other cheek is not an option, ya gotta stand up for yourself, right.
You can always really piss em off everytime they start up on you by smiling, and saying
GOD BLESS YOU!
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 May 2009): This is very hard and you definitely have a problem. But there is a solution, and it saves your feelings and diminishes your problem. It starts from inside.You currently value other's opinions. This presents a huge issue. When you value another's opinion, you set yourself up for pain and frustration and everything negative. Don't do that anymore. Choose to accept that other's opinions of you are worthless. There is no one in the world whose opinion matters. None. Be it good or bad, no one has an accurate assessment of you because they are unqualified to assess you. Choose to embrace the fact: no one's opinion of you matters. When you get this, you will see a change in how you carry yourself, how you feel, how you walk, etc. Then once you wrap your mind around this fact, you will have the perfect reasons to completely ignore what others say. You'll hear criticism or teasing and you'll have no emotional response and you'll not care. You're a great person, end of story, and no one can change that.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 May 2009): Eh, Ignoring ONLY works if you show that you don't care. If you are ignoring but its obvious you still care they will mercilessly continue until you break down. The key is not to care.
I wouldn't be offended if someone called me Jet Li.. what a LAME insult. More of a compliment than anything. Jet Li is at the top of his field, and is a dedicated and honorable human being. More than can be said for the lowlifes that are dissing you. I would just laugh at any lame-o that stepped to me with that mess.
or say "More like Lucy Liu!" and slap him upside his head.
Kids these days..
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 May 2009): Dont worry their just idiots. A similar situation happened to a mate of mine becuase her name sounds lyk karate lol.It was one guy really and she just told him to shut up. She also took the piss out of him so maybe yu shud comment on these boys pyhsical appearance. However be careful because if they are really harsh boys than they might just make things worse for you. You could also try to ignore them cos eventually they will get bord. Or youu could jus laugh it off crazy as it seemz it might just stop them saying things to you. Chnaces are they will move on to someone else lol. Hope I could help youu.
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reader, kellyxxx +, writes (7 May 2009):
 The best thing is to ignore them, if you start shouting back they will make what they say worse. Why don't you try a make over, I know you said you don't wear you hair like that anymore but try putting on makeup if you don't already or acessorising. If you need any help I am a hairdresser and beautician, I can advise you on lots of things. X
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