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writes:I'm dating a guy who is the older brother one of one of so-called best friends - she was against the idea from the start but it's now close to two years and she still can't/won't deal with it. Was friends with her over 30 years. He has been separated from his wife over 6 yrs but still not divorced, which I have a huge problem with. Had two children with this woman, a 10 yr old daughter and a 6 yr old son, who unfortunately passed away a little over a month ago, tragic and shocking.I was not allowed to go to hospital when the boy was there - that was one of the first things my 'friend'told me - "you can't go to the hospital" which I hadn't planned on any how. However, I was no able to attend the wake and although I did attend the funeral, I was in the back like a mistress and not able to attend any services after the fact - totally treated like an outsider but mostly by my 'friend' and my man's other sister.Since the child's passing, the sisters do everything in their power it seems to push me out of the way and monopolize his time. It's way too soon to make a stink over it with my man but i'm really starting to get pissed and equally hurt because I've known these people 3/4 of my life and I make him happy, I'm there for him in ways they can't be - I'm the one he turns to when he has to break down and cry over his son -not them and they know it yet they can't find it in their hearts to just be happy for us in fact, my 'friend' thinks he should put his family back together -which is not what he wants - he and his ex hate one another and that certainly isn't healthy for his daughter.I want so badly to tell these bitches off but I take the high road and leave it alone but it's driving me nuts. He was at my house when he got the call about his son - flew out the door to his side saying "he's blue he passed out" and as not to bother him while he's by his dying son's bedside, I contacted anyone I could to try and get some info while sitting on my couch losing my mind- his sister complained to him that I had text her too much! and others told him that I contacted them ( in hopes that he'd reach out to me) - as a super private person, he was upset by that - and he has commented on that more than once.I'm trying hard to be patient and be there for him but feel that ultimately blood is thicker than water and I'll lose especially if I start a war but this is so unfair - they treat me like a non-entity and show up at his house every weekend since his son passed just assuming that he'll have no time for me and thus far they win becasue I won't cause a problem but I finally said to him that in time he will have to stand up for me and tell them to back off.HELP! what do I do in the meantime? how do I get these sisters to back off.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 March 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks Gina-I only see him at mt place-they come to his on weekends & then I'm out! I am divorced with two kids but on my off weekends I'd like to see him but can't because of them! His one sister, my forer friend, lives close by & has a husband and kids of her own-sometiimes they all come over & sometimes its just herl His Mom is up from Floridaand has been since the son was in hospital & staying thru early May for her grandaughters communion. My man told me there's a good chance his sister will invite his ex wife & she already voiced her opinion that they should get back together-I realize its too soon but I'm just so frustrated & afraid at some point will have to walk away-dont want to because I love him so much.
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