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writes:I have an INTENSE attraction for someone, and he has the same feelings for me. When we kiss it feels like my whole body is vibrating and I have literally had an orgasm just "dry humping." We do have sex sometimes but it's almost too much, the instant he's inside me I cum, and he doesn't last much longer than that. I have had sex and relationships with other people in the past and it's never been like that for me, and he has told me the same thing holds true for him. I know a few people that have slept with him and they've told me he's amazing in bed and it lasts a long time, but for some reason he just can't with me! It's very frustrating because it just leaves me wanting more and we can't figure out what's going on with us.Has anyone experienced anything like this before? How can I get him to last longer? What does it all mean???(Besides having sex all the time bc we don't have the opportunity to be intimate alot, besides GREAT makeout sessions every few weeks).
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reader, daniel.1984 +, writes (8 April 2010):
ahhh yeahhh!!! out of all my past partners i can honestly say that i had the same expirience as you with one girl, but after that 1st orgasm we just got right back to it and she would cum afor another 4 to 5 times before i came again and sex was just great!!!
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reader, Fangster +, writes (7 April 2010):
Fangster is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you to everyone who answered! I appreciate all your input and I will def being using some of these techniques in the future! You all rock!
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reader, Miamine  +, writes (5 April 2010):
 Thank you almasdp, I was starting to feel like a freak. I can remember that it sometimes felt painful, too much emotions, too much of everything really....it also can be unsatisfying, everything so fast, and you either come to fast or you don't come...
I can remember those feelings and yes it's wonderful but at the same time it feels abnormal, too much is the only way I can describe it.
Anyway, I already told you the things that might help settle it down.. and my case, it didn't get better, 18years later it was still intense... :)
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reader, ChristineAvril +, writes (4 April 2010):
 As everybody has said, what's the problem!
Seriously, why not masturbate each other to completion first - shouldn't take long - then get more intimate.
My guess is that, having taken the edge off your immediate desires you will last longer and cum again. And again!
Why just stop at once anyway?
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reader, pinktopaz +, writes (4 April 2010):
If you get yours and he gets his...I don't see what the problem is.
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reader, Moo's Mum  +, writes (4 April 2010):
 Just start over again as soon as you both cum.
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reader, Miamine +, writes (4 April 2010):
Oh the guy.. forgot him.
He's got to practice very hard trying not to orgasm. Best to do "stop and start"... you start sex, every time he feels he wants to come then he changes position, and you try something else.. makes it crazy frustrating for you, but it should make him last longer..
If however he just comes straight away, sigh, you two need to see each other more often and have more sex. Tell him to masturbate and orgasm on his own before you two meet up. That should also help to slow him down.
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reader, Miamine +, writes (4 April 2010):
Yes, I've experience that type of sex... very exhausting...
mmmm... Tantric helps to calm the whole thing down a bit... basically you go with the feelings, stop fighting, just relax and feel whatever you feel.
Try and treat it like riding a wave. No resistance, and no pressure. If you have orgasms and they happen to soon or too much, then don't worry, lie back and get some sleep.
Thinking to much about how long it lasts or how crazy it feels makes the whole thing more difficult. Just go with whatever you feel. He must also do the same thing. If he comes to soon, then he'll just have to find other ways to pleasure you until he gets his energy back.
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reader, Uncle Andrew +, writes (4 April 2010):
 Have you tried taking things slowly. Have a nice meal in a quiet restaurant and not too much to drink. Or alternatively , go dancing at a decent disco where you can sit it out some of the time and not be deafened - i.e. somehwere where you can have a conversation. The idea here is to dance until you both feel tired - the food also helps here. Then when you get back home try avoiding sexual intercourse at first - just kiss on the mouth a little and then undress your self and ask him to do the same and then get into bed or on top of the bed but just stroke each other on the arms, shoulders, neck etc but do not stimulate or stroke or touch each others genitalia and avoid having sex for as long as you can - talk about anything not associated with sex whilst maintaining the skin stroking, be patient with each other and then if you both really want to - make love to each other and maybe, just maybe the lovemaking will last much longer.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 April 2010): wow lucky u, and u are complaining because...?
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 April 2010): This doesn't sound like a problem to me at all. If you're having such mind-blowing sex, just enjoy it!! He obviously finds you incredibly attractive, as you have more and more sex, he'll last longer and longer. But damn girl! Enjoy it! Look at how many couples don't have enough sex, or hate sex or don't come at all... Enjoy it :D
Best of luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 April 2010): ummm lucky you lol.
but seriously you two may need to cut back on the foreplay.
you two are to reved up before take off! less touching and simulation before sex may make it last longer!
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 April 2010): It may sound a bit silly but masturbation could help. A few hours before you're due to meet up why not masturbate? This relieves a lot of sexual tension and usually allows you to last longer in bed, should you do so a few hours beforehand. Just think about him while you masturbate and it shouldn't take long if its as intense as you say. In fact tell him to do the same as well so he can last longer. Personally I had a problem with my girlfriend in that I would climax too early and we're talking 2 minutes in, which is pretty embarassing. But when we were apart for several weeks I masturbated pretty much everyday since and find I can last easily more than 15 minutes. Hope this helps.
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reader, Dree23 +, writes (4 April 2010):
First of all I wanna say congratulations gotdammit. You're having an orgasm girl, most of us women we get NOTHING. All I can say is do NOT have sex all the time because you don't want to get burnt out doing it. Sounds like u have a good thing so savor it! It can be so good for so long and then BOOM....nothing there anymore. There are plenty of things out there that could make him go longer. Less foreplay is one thing, desensitizing spray is good....I can't think of much else but good luck
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reader, lovelovejuice  +, writes (4 April 2010):
You're lucky. Who cares if it doesn't last long. More sessions, more orgasms, more cum to play with, less numbness in both your units. I'd love to be in his situation.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 April 2010): Share your feelings with eachother .
Ask him how he really feels about you.
Talk about oyur sex life,its normal.
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