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writes:I have met this guy who is 38.. (I am 36). He has been engaged several times--most recently, a few months ago. He says that he's 'a pleaser; and that he has 'ADHD.' (Yes, I know...red flags all around. We met a couple of weeks ago and immediately hit it off. We ended up sleeping with each other...five times in one night. (Wait...am I sharing too much?) Since then, he's texted and said that we should do something, then, there was a lull of nothing. Then, this past Saturday, he invited me to an afternoon pool party. We spent the day and night together...and again, MAJOR chemistry. Needless to say, we couldn't keep our hands off each other. Realistically, I know this guy has issues. And I'm sure he's seeing other girls. I am going out with other guys--but he's the only one I've slept with. Anyway, I kind of dig him--if for nothing else, the fact that he is very well-endowed and we have major chemistry. I know that amazing sex does not a relationship make. Still, I'm cool with keeping this a casual thing. So here's my question: How do I make him continue to want more? Play hard to get? Am I crazy for even thinking I'm different than the other girls?
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 July 2009): You are obviously doing what you want to do with him despite his problems, so why even make this post?
You said: "We spent the day and night together...and again, MAJOR chemistry" then you said "Still, I'm cool with keeping this a casual thing".
So why in the world do you need his interest if you're cool with it being casual? Obviously he has some interest if he's inviting you to parties & things! But you need to decide on if you really want him or not. Do you want serious or do you want casual?
Are you sure you're 36?
I'm not trying to be rude or anything, but go back and read what you typed & try to make sense out of it. You'll find it doesn't make any!
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