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writes:My boyfriend of 7 months and I have each got a pre-engagement ring, but there is some confusion as to where the ring is supposed to be worn. I say on the wedding finger of the left hand, and he says on the wedding finger of the right hand, saying that wearing it on the left finger is bad luck. However, wearing the ring on the wedding finger of the right hand is supposed to signify a widower, and surely this is bad luck too?We have tried to come to a conclusion on this, but both firmly stand our ground for opposing sides- where do we wear our rings? I'd really like us both wearing it on the same finger, and so would he. What do we do for the best?xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 January 2007): I am actually looking for the same kind of answer. My boyfriend is getting me just a plain little ring for Valentine's and I would like to know if it is bad luck to wear it on my left ring finger. I always wear rings on that finger but not from a boyfriend. Would that be a risky thing to do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 December 2006): Hey I wear my gran aunt's eternity ring on my wedding finger (mainly cos its the only one it fits) but my mom is always telling me its bad luck to wear a ring on your wedding finger unless your engaged...
Its what it symbolizes more so than on what hand you wear it on at the end of the day...
Wear it on what ever hand makes you happy - after all its your ring/hand/life/future......
Best of luck x
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reader, stina  +, writes (13 December 2006):
 * "because all that matters is what it symbolizes" - I mean all that matters is what the actual *ring* symbolizes to *you*!
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reader, stina +, writes (13 December 2006):
Hi Anon,
I think that's really sweet!
Even though you said you're going to wear it on your right hand, I don't really see a problem with it on any hand (or finger, really). If you wear it on your wedding ring finger, then at least people will know you're taken. If you wear it anywhere else, it doesn't matter (in my opinion), because all that matters is what it symbolizes, right? :)
(BTW - I also had a commitment ring at one time and I wore it on my left hand. I thought it was more - um - romantic I guess you could say.)
Take care.
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reader, willywombat +, writes (13 December 2006):
 I hope my remark was not classed as 'catty'. I just can't get my head around being engaged to be engaged. But when you said a 'commitment' ring it made sense!! D'oh!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 December 2006): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThankyou for your advice- those who WEREN'T rude enough to make catty remarks were extremely helpful- I shall wear it on my right hand hereon.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 December 2006): ok, my mother is a widower and she continues to wear her ring on the left hand.
on the left hand would signify engagement so if you're not engaged you wear it on the right (same finger).
on the right singifies to PROMISE, which is just like an engagement but not completely, just like your case so i say you would wear it on the right otherwise people will think you are oficially engaged.
otherwise wear it wherever you damn well want :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 December 2006): A pre-engagement ring? What will they think of to make some money next?!
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reader, Preppygurl +, writes (13 December 2006):
ummmmm i got a promise ring last december for my birthday and i put it on my wedding ring finger.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 December 2006): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThey're commitment rings, to clarify. Has anyone any advice?
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reader, willywombat +, writes (13 December 2006):
What?? You are engaged to be engaged??
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