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writes:Some people especially men like to watch porn, for the spouse it could be a difficult experience especially if the intimacy in their relationship is affected. Usually men would search for porn when they have some level of stagnation in their lives, its usually a state were a lot of relationships go through when one or both partners are not as engaged in making their relationship fresh, and exciting.What troubles some women on the other hand is the strange nature of some material that their spouses could be looking at!No one would argue that a straight man would never find other men attractive, yet gender bending porn which includes transsexuals could be a difficult thing for a female partner to accept. Usually (apart from the problem of porn addiction), there is no real cause for concern.Straight guys can be attracted to shemale/ladyboy porn, its natural, remember some people are born with male genitals yet their bodies do not respond to testosterone (called AIS) and they develop along female lines and have a female mentality as well. As long as something exists in nature (its not just transsexuals out there) then there is bound to be a natural attraction to it by the opposite sex, men in this case. On the other hand, most people would agree that a woman would have lesbian tendencies if she likes shemales, so we can't have the same argument for both genders.Now, if you want to be sure that your partner has no homosexual tendencies (which could be there anyway whether he likes shemale porn or not), then check which type of shemale porn is he looking at.All men prefer women, and naturally anything that approaches a perfect female form would be more attractive to them. There are too types of shemales/ladyboys... those that are completely feminized (even though still pre-operative) and the other group which is feminized but can still function as male. The first group has an extreme likeness to females and would appeal to almost any man, the second I suspect may appeal more to a homosexual person especially when the porn material exhibit the maleness factor of a shemale in action, or if he prefers it to the first group.
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reader, Tim333 +, writes (27 October 2010):
Tim333 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYou've pointed out that he's already got used to it when he was still a teen, and that is key. Some teens can quit porn as they grow older, but if they get used to it, it is very difficult to get rid of completely, even when they have a partner. What I meant to say is that for someone that wasn't used to using porn, to start looking at it is basically their way of damage minimization, thinking it is definitely much better than seeking satisfaction elsewhere! It's sort of a compromise, out of respect for their partner. But also some men just can't get over the need to have sex with a certain frequency, and it is probably the reason why your partner will go back to the way he used to satisfy himself when you're not around.I know you don't mean to say watching trannies is a form of gay sex, but I still want to highlight why men would compensate mentally for the reason they left a more beautiful creature (natal women) to go look at an imperfect alternative. Actually, their imperfection is what helps in making them attractive. Men think of them as women because physically and mentally they are/appear female, and subconsciously their sympathy for them compensate for their shortcomings as compared to natal women. Everybody knows how much flawed as compared to women, trannies can be, they can never have what women have, which coming to think of is quite a serious list that their feminized bodies just can't deliver... For a tranny being emotionally female, yet deprived of everything women usually aspire to; like a "normal" marriage and family, getting pregnant, taking care of their babies and watching her kids grow up, and even the prospects of a satisfying sex life (after sex reassignment surgery it is statistically not that good)... It's pretty serious. The only thing they get to retain is their ability to satisfy "some" men, and live in the gender of their choice. So I believe that sympathy has a significant component in men's attraction to the imperfections of Transsexual women, even though I know many won't admit it!
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reader, Tim333 +, writes (27 October 2010):
Tim333 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYou've pointed out that he's already got used to it when he was still a teen, and that is key. Some teens can quit porn as they grow older, but if they get used to it, it is very difficult to get rid of completely, even when they have a partner. What I meant to say is that for someone that wasn't used to using porn, to start looking at it is basically there way of damage minimization, thinking it is definitely much better than seeking satisfaction elsewhere! It's sort of a compromise, out of respect for their partner.
But also some men just can't get over the need to have sex with a certain frequency, and it is probably the reason why your husband will go back to the way he used to satisfy himself when you're not around.
I know you don't mean to say watching trannies is a form of gay sex, but I still want to highlight why men would compensate mentally for the reason they left a more beautiful creature (natal women) to go look at an imperfect alternative. Actually, their imperfection is what helps make them in making them attractive. Men think of them as women because of their physical appearance, and a subconsciously their sympathy for them compensate for their short comings as compared to natal women. Everybody feels how much flawed as compared to women they can be, they can never have what women have, which coming to think of is quite a very serious shortfall. For a tranny being emotionally female, yet deprived of everything women usually aspire to like a "normal" marriage and family, getting pregnant, taking care of their babies and watching her kids grow up, even the prospects of a satisfying sex life after their sex reassignment surgery is not statistically that good... It's pretty serious. So I believe that sympathy has a significant component in men's attraction to the imperfections of Transsexual women, even though I know many won't admit it!
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reader, smiliek  +, writes (25 October 2010):
 I'm going to disagree with something you've said here.. Men dont always start looking at porn when they aren't getting enough sexual attention in a relationship. My almost hubby and i have sex or i give him oral or something every day, and he still looks sometimes. He's been doing it since he was a teen and in every relationship he's been in. He reckons he does it less since he's been with me (maybe once or twice a wk) It doesnt seem to affect our sex life or relationship and he doesnt do it when im home so it seems fine. And he prefers to look at blowjobs or 'normal stuff' then anythih out there. He says he doesnt like gay sex or trannies or anything else like that. Just stuff we'd do.. So just a different example
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reader, Tim333 +, writes (25 October 2010):
Tim333 is verified as being by the original poster of the question:) I know what you mean... But this is still more like women's, of course a man or a woman could admire how sexy a person of the same sex is, this is normal and probably also healthy! But they still wouldn't want to have sex with them, so its more of an admiration than a genuine attraction I think.
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reader, Jmtmj +, writes (25 October 2010):
 "No one would argue that a straight man would never find other men attractive"
Err... I would.
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